It hasn’t. The eye is what a storm produces when it has organized itself. The storm rotates around the eye, not the eye around the storm. The quietest place in a hurricane is the hurricane at its most organized.

This is something I think about often. Last week it surfaced again, in a conversation with a colleague working on how AI affects the human mind, and the eye of a storm was the image we ended up at.

We talk about agency as if it were output. Choosing, clicking, deciding, moving things forward. As if the person doing more is more in charge of their life. A lot of what we call action does not feel that way once you slow it down. It is closer to momentum. The next email arrives, you reply. A notification fires, you check. A suggestion appears, you take it. The activity is real. The choosing is mostly missing.

Real agency is quieter than that. It is the small moment before the action, when an impulse can be noticed instead of obeyed.1 When a reason can be weighed against another reason. When you can ask whether the obvious next move is the right one, or just the loudest. Most days I do not get to that moment. I am already three replies in.

I notice this in myself most clearly when I cannot find the pause. When the pace feels normal but every decision is being made for me by whatever showed up first. The trouble is rarely that life has gotten busier. It is that the inside has thinned out, and the outside starts running the show.

Reaching the pause is harder than it sounds. It is the moment you can no longer blame the moment. You cannot point to the person who sent the email, or to how busy you are, or to the obvious thing that needed to be done. You have to do something with the situation in front of you, knowing it is yours.

Staying in the pause is not the goal either. Endless deliberation is its own failure. The point is to hold a center while still moving, to keep the place where you weigh reasons connected to the place where you act. A still mind that does nothing is paralysis. A busy life with no still mind is most weeks.

Most of modern life is engineered for the second one.

Feeds shape what we look at. Tools suggest the next action. Models complete our sentences, then the paragraphs after them, then begin to shape the thinking that would have produced the paragraphs. The slow sequence of learning, doing, getting better, doing it again, is compressing into a single moment. Capability that once took years can now be summoned on demand.

None of this strips agency in any dramatic sense. It just makes the inside smaller. The danger is not that we stop being able to act. We do not stop. The danger is that more is produced through us than by us,2 and the part of us that would have asked whether to do it is gone before we notice.

I see three habits in people, and I have been each of them.3

Some do not feel anything has changed. Output is rising, tools work, things feel efficient. They take this as proof that nothing important has shifted. Others feel the change as constant pressure. Every new model is a structure to adapt to. Every release is a verdict. They are not calm and they are not still. The third habit is harder. It is to know things are changing, decline to be carried, and try to hold a steady place the rest can move around. That is not calm because nothing is happening. It is calm because nothing is pushing.

A small test, mostly for myself. Before a decision that feels obvious, I try to notice where the obviousness is coming from. If I cannot tell, I am usually being pushed. The feeling of being sure and the feeling of being pushed are easy to confuse. They are not the same thing.

There will always be a storm. What I want to know, in my own life and in the systems we are now building, is whether the center holds.4

In Minority Report, Tom Cruise at the glass interface looks like the one making the call. He swipes through visions, tags what matters, and sends the machinery of response into motion. But he is not discovering the future. He is acting on what the system surfaces, what it frames, and what it never explains.

He is the human in the loop.

More and more of modern life ends the same way. A blue button. A checked box. A click at the bottom. Approve the summary. Accept the recommendation. Confirm the route. Send the reply.

The click feels like the decision. Often it is only the last move.

The oldest rubber stamp

This pattern is older than software. Older than electricity. Older than printing.

Every age has its ritual of assent: wax, ink, pixel.

Medieval lords pressed seals into charters composed by clerks. Many could not read what they were sealing. For centuries, congregations have said Amen, “so be it,” to words they did not author and sometimes did not fully understand.

Today we click “I agree.” Almost nobody reads the terms.

We have always been willing to approve what someone else prepared. That is why this is not just a technology story. It is a human story. The vulnerability is ancient.

What is new is the quality of the clerk.

The thing preparing the words for you is now fast, fluent, tireless, and increasingly personal. It can sound neutral. It can sound competent. It can even sound like your own thought returning to you in cleaner prose.

That changes the meaning of the click.

The first answer changes the job

“Human in the loop” sounds reassuring. It sounds like someone is steering.

Sometimes that is true.

More often, it means a person arrives near the end, after the options have been ranked, after the draft has been polished, after the first answer has already established itself as the obvious one.

That is a different role.

Before a system gives you an answer, you have to do different work. You have to figure out what the problem is. You have to decide what matters. You have to weigh tradeoffs, generate alternatives, and test your first instinct against the facts.

After the answer appears, you review. And after enough polished, good-enough first answers, reviewing becomes agreeing.

A recommendation is not just a suggestion. It is a starting point. A ranking is not just information. It is an argument about relevance. A summary is not just compression. It is a decision about what mattered enough to keep.

Once the system goes first often enough, you start thinking later and later in the process, not because you are lazy, but because framing the first plausible version of something is already a large share of the deciding.

Your hand, their menu

The strange part is how much freedom you still feel.

You browse. You pick. You choose.

But the route was optimized before you saw it. The candidates were filtered before you compared them. The facts were summarized before you read them. Everything arrived in an order that already carried a verdict.

Yes, you can still override. You can scroll further. You can ask a follow-up. You can choose something off-menu.

But there is a real difference between what exists and what is easy to choose.

That difference matters more than we admit.

The most consequential moment in many decisions is not the final click. It is the earlier, quieter act of deciding what gets surfaced and what gets buried, what gets framed as sensible and what gets made to feel slow, strange, or irrelevant.

Polish widens that gap. A rough suggestion invites thought. A polished paragraph invites surrender.

The cleaner the draft, the less likely you are to begin again from nothing. The more seamless the path, the less likely you are to ask what got left off the map.

Not all of the difficulty these systems remove was waste. Some of it was load-bearing. The pause before an answer. The effort of generating alternatives yourself. The uncomfortable moment when the obvious solution does not fit the facts. The need to say, in your own words, why you think something is right.

That is not useless friction. That is part of how judgment forms.

Take too much of it away, and a person can remain fully present while their judgment goes quiet.

Five reviewers, zero authors

You can put five sharp people around a polished recommendation and still end up with theater. You can require human review and still build a process where nobody feels enough ownership to push back. You can leave a person at the end of the chain and call it accountability, when what you actually built was ceremonial approval.

This is where the historical thread comes back.

The medieval lord sealed documents he could not read because he trusted his clerk and had other things to do. The modern equivalent is a manager approving a model-generated analysis because the document is fluent, the meeting starts in ten minutes, and disagreeing with it would mean doing the work yourself, slowly, from scratch.

The incentive structure is ancient. The only thing that changed is the clerk got faster.

Over time, people stop generating their own alternatives. They stop checking the source behind the summary. They stop asking what is missing. They stop framing the problem from scratch. And because they are still in the room, still clicking approve at the end, they may never notice the shift.

The loss is quiet. It feels like things are going well.

What is at stake is not intelligence in some grand, theatrical sense. It is the habit of beginning. Framing a problem before solving it. The confidence to look at a polished answer and say, “this is wrong.” The patience to inspect the path, not just accept the destination.

These abilities only deepen when you practice them. And you only practice them when nobody has handed you the answer yet.

Build for friction

A system that took this seriously would not optimize only for speed and smoothness.

It would preserve the conditions for thought.

It would ask for your goal before offering its route. It would show alternatives, not just winners. It would make its assumptions visible and its sources easy to inspect. It would make disagreement cheap. It would let you see what got excluded from the shortlist, what fell out of the summary, and what the ranking treated as irrelevant.

It would leave a little productive resistance in the process. Enough for a person to form judgment instead of merely inherit one.

Most of all, it would respect a distinction many systems blur: the difference between assisting your judgment and replacing the conditions that let judgment form in the first place.

It would not just help you click faster. It would help you decide better.

When did you last start from nothing?

The future problem probably is not that humans disappear from the loop.

The future problem is that millions of us stay in it, approving, absorbing blame, and feeling involved, while missing the part where the real shaping already took place.

So the question worth asking is not, “Was a human involved?” It is not, “Could someone have overridden the system?”

It is simpler.

That is where authorship lives.

Once that goes, the click at the end is only a mark left by someone who used to be there.

That is why the next useful habit may be simpler than it sounds:

Think twice before clicking.

I wrote it for my kids. For Gabriel, Noah, Daniel, and Eliana, who never stop asking why. It’s a message to them, written in a language my six-year-old can read, because she still has infinite questions about a world the rest of us have stopped questioning.

Over the last few years I’ve been speaking all over the country. Workshops, bootcamps, executive briefings, hospitals. When you do that much of it, you start to feel the temperature of a room the second you walk in. You hear what people are worried about. You hear what they wish someone would say out loud. You build a map of what this moment actually feels like from the inside, across industries and generations and zip codes.

One thing kept standing out.

My six-year-old was thinking about this very differently than everyone else I was meeting.

She had infinite hope. And she didn’t know enough yet to be concerned.

That gap, between what she sees and what the rooms full of adults see, is the whole reason this book exists.

Your family is the product. And you’re the product manager.

I’ve been a product manager for twenty years. So let me say what that word means before it gets used as a metaphor.

A product manager holds a lot in mind at once. The product as it lives in the heads of many different people, all writing it slightly differently inside themselves. The engineer sees one thing. The designer sees another. The exec sees a third. Your job is to hold all of those at once without losing the thread of what the thing is.

And you carry it from a hope to a shipped thing in the world.

That is also what parents do.

You hold a future you want for your child. You hold where your child wants to go, which is usually not the same place, and is allowed not to be. Somewhere in between, you’re trying to find the place that’s actually right for them, which is often a third option you couldn’t see when you started.

Holding all of that at once takes a lot. Cognitively. Emotionally.

A product manager also lives inside conflict. Constant conflict. Opinions pulling in different directions, priorities that won’t reconcile on paper, people who each believe their piece is the most important piece. Your job isn’t to pick a winner. Your job is to de-conflict. Find the version that honors as much of the truth as possible, and keep moving.

You hold where you were. Where you are. Where you’re going. And how you’re actually going to get there. Often through ideas that are orthogonal1, or flat-out contradictory.

Sound familiar yet?

When I started watching how my kids were using AI, I noticed they were asking it the kinds of questions I used to ask my parents.

Not homework questions. Not Google questions. The other ones. The ones you ask when you’re trying to figure out what kind of person you are, or what you think about something big, or whether a feeling you have is normal.

That’s when it hit me. Certain parts of parenthood had already transferred off of me. Quietly. Without a meeting. Without me signing anything.

Someone else was answering.

And as one of the product managers of this family, I realized I was no longer fully in charge of the product.

That’s the fear underneath the book.

The Giving Mind is written for ages four to eight, but it’s really for any age. It opens with this line:

The first time I read it with my daughter, she stopped me.

“Papa, there are still humans. Why does it say once there were humans?”

That’s the whole book right there, in one question from a six-year-old.

So I tried something. I asked her: would you be upset if I took away your tablet at meals? Or if I said no shows tonight?

Yes, Papa. I’d be very sad.

I told her: when I was your age, I wasn’t sad when I was bored. I wasn’t sad without a device. I had the outdoors. I had my friends. We had a TV in the house, but nothing smart. Nothing that followed me into my pocket. Nothing that answered every question before I had the chance to sit with it.

That world is gone for her. She didn’t lose it. She was born after it left.

Once there were humans isn’t a science fiction opening. It’s an honest one.

Cyborg and Centaur

, in Co-Intelligence, gives us two words for how humans and AI work together. They’re worth borrowing.

A centaur keeps the seam visible. Human on top, machine below. Clear division of labor. I think, you execute. Or you think about one part, I think about the other, and we hand the work back and forth at a clean boundary. I know where I end and you begin.

A cyborg blurs the seam. Human and machine pass the baton mid-sentence. You’re writing a thought, the machine finishes it, you edit, it extends, you accept, you reject. By the time the sentence is done, neither of you could say cleanly who wrote which part.

Both are real. Both are useful. Both are happening in your house already.

My daughter won’t grow up choosing between centaur and cyborg. She’ll grow up cyborg by default. I grew up watching the internet arrive. She’ll grow up never knowing it wasn’t there. The seam between her thoughts and a machine’s will be the same way. Invisible to her from the beginning.

Which means the job of the product manager at home changes.

The machine is already inside. Going back to once upon a time isn’t on the table, and I wouldn’t lie to her about it if it were.

The job now is to make sure she knows where the seam is. Even when she can’t feel it. Even when everyone around her has stopped pointing at it.

The job is to give her a mind that can still tell.

That’s what The Giving Mind is trying to do. In small pages, for small hands. So that when the seam disappears, something in her still knows it was ever there.

Once there were humans.

They read. They talked. They loved to think.

Some of them still do.

Who This Is For

Parents who feel the question before they have words for it. Grandparents looking for a way in. Teachers. Anyone who still reads to a kid (or other adults) and wants the reading to matter. And anyone curious what years of sitting with this question does to a person over time, the way it reshapes what you pay attention to and what you stop being willing to let slide.

How to Read It

Read it with a child, not to one. Stop when they stop you. Let the silence sit there, even when it gets awkward. The book is built for interruption. For going back and forth. For coming back to it next week, and the week after that. A parent and teacher guide at the back gives you prompts to keep the dialogue going, at home or in the classroom.

What’s Coming

The Giving Mind is the first of four. Each book takes on a different dimension of what makes us human in the age of AI. The Giving Mind is about wonder and curiosity. The Giving Heart is about empathy and connection. The Giving Hands is about science and making. The Giving Feet is about purpose and journey. Mind, heart, hands, feet. The whole person. One book for each, because my daughter doesn’t need a theory of humanness. She needs something she can hold.

While I finish the remaining three, I’ll keep writing here on Substack. Same thread, different form.

About the Press

The Giving Mind is published by Small Light Press2, an independent press I founded to carry ideas that illuminate. The name comes from a simple belief: a small light, in a dark room, extinguishes an incredible amount of darkness. A lantern on a road. A candle at a bedside. Light is how we find each other.

The press runs two imprints. Lantern is for adult essays and long-form writing. Candle is for picture books. Both share the same conviction. Honest, careful writing changes things.

A Note on How This Was Made

AI was used to mock up some early ideas along the way. The ideas themselves, the writing, the editing, and the illustrations are all human. That distinction matters to me, and it matters to the book.

The Giving Mind is live on Amazon now.

Read it with a kid (or person) you love. Then tell me what they said back.

For Sarah, who dedicates her life to children and the art of childhood itself. And for Gabriel, Noah, Daniel, and Eliana, who never stop asking why. For every child who still has questions.

With thanks to Kari Auer, Tal L, and Liz Heflin for their editorial care, and to Romi Lindenberg, who brought these pages to life.

Living systems constantly produce things they later discard.*

There’s an old piece of folk biology that most people accept without question: hair and nails keep growing after death.

It sounds true. It feels true. It’s the kind of fact that survives in families and medical schools and late-night conversations because it carries a certain poetry. The body persisting past its own ending, still reaching, still producing, still alive in some residual way.

Except it’s wrong. I don’t want to be morbid, but alas, some ideas need to be fleshed out.

Hair and nails don’t continue to grow after death. The skin dehydrates and retracts, pulling back from the nail beds and hair follicles, making it appear as if they’re still growing. The appearance of growth is the recession of everything around it.1

I’ve been thinking about that inversion every day for the last month. Not about bodies. About organizations. About industries. About the structures we built to house human expertise, and what happens when the expertise leaves but the structures remain. I touched on this in Intentional Deskilling, the metaphor that wouldn’t let go. Now I want to follow it all the way down.

Hair and nails grow from us, yet we cut them away without pain. Technology may be becoming something similar: an extension of cognition that we periodically trim, replace, and rebuild, without noticing that the living tissue underneath has changed.

The Three Discoveries

Anthropologists argue about a lot of things. The archaeological evidence for what makes human cognition distinct is long and varied: stone tools, symbolic artifacts, structured living spaces, exchange networks, mortuary ritual.2 But three categories keep surfacing in how we tell the story to ourselves.

The first was the use of tools. Stone shaped into something that extends the hand’s reach. A rock becomes a hammer. A stick becomes a lever. The boundary between body and environment blurs. The oldest known stone tools, from Lomekwi in Kenya, are 3.3 million years old, predating our own genus. Homo habilis, “handy man,” earned the name not for what he thought but for what he held.

The second was language. Not vocalizing, because many animals do that, but symbolic communication. Words that stand for things not present. Sentences that describe events that haven’t happened. The ability to coordinate across time and space, to build communities around shared meaning, to pass knowledge between generations without requiring each generation to rediscover it from scratch. Language leaves no fossils. We date it sideways, through the symbolic artifacts it makes possible, and the earliest of those reach back at least 100,000 years.

The third was burial of the dead.

That one never gets the attention it deserves. Tools are practical. Language is powerful. But burial? Burial is something else entirely. It means a species has developed the capacity to recognize that something has ended. To feel that ending as loss. To structure a communal response to that loss so the group can process it and move forward.

Recent archaeological evidence continues to reshape this picture. Analysis from Tinshemet Cave in Israel and the child burial at Panga ya Saidi in Kenya place intentional human burials among the earliest known, while ‘behavioral modernity’ is increasingly understood not as a single threshold but as a mosaic, capabilities emerging unevenly across regions and populations.3

Burial isn’t practical. It’s expensive. Time, energy, resources diverted from survival to ceremony. The fact that humans developed it anyway tells you something about what we are. We are the animal that needs to mark endings. The animal that cannot simply walk away from what has died. The animal that builds rituals of mourning because without them, we’d pour resources into resurrection instead of adaptation.

Anthropologists have a term for the period between biological death and social death: the in-between phase. During this interval, the deceased is, in the community’s functional reality, “socially alive but biologically dead.”4 The body is present. The social role hasn’t been reassigned. Resources are still directed toward the person who no longer exists. Arnold van Gennep mapped this in 1909: every death ritual moves through three phases (separation, transition, and reintegration) and it’s the middle phase that does the actual work. 5 Without it, the community never completes the transition. It gets stuck treating the dead as sick.

The Four Tensions

Every narrative tradition I’ve encountered, across cultures and centuries, maps the human condition onto some version of four tensions:6

Person to person. How we negotiate with each other. Power, love, betrayal, cooperation. The social contract and its violations.

Person to environment. How we survive in a world that doesn’t owe us anything. Weather, scarcity, geography. The body against the elements.

Person to tools. How we extend ourselves through what we build. The hammer, the wheel, the algorithm. The bargain we strike every time we make something that makes us more capable: what do we gain, and what do we lose?

Person to the infinite. How we reckon with what exceeds us. Death, meaning, time, the sacred. The questions that have no answers and cannot be abandoned.

These tensions don’t resolve. They oscillate. They’re the fundamental frequencies of human experience, and everything we build (every institution, every technology, every ritual) is an attempt to manage one or more of them.

Burial sits at the intersection of all four. It’s social (communal mourning). It’s environmental (returning the body to the ground). It’s technological (the tools and structures of ceremony). And it’s infinite (the confrontation with what cannot be undone).

When we fail to bury what has died, the tensions don’t disappear. They distort.

What’s Already Dead

Anthropic published research recently analyzing millions of human-agent interactions on their API. The numbers are clarifying in the way that autopsy reports are clarifying. Software engineering accounts for nearly 50% of all agentic tool calls. Business intelligence, customer service, sales, finance each sit in the low single digits.7

What this tells you isn’t that agents don’t work in those other domains. It tells you that software engineering is the first domain where the transformation is complete enough to measure. The hair and nails have been growing for a while now. It just took someone measuring to notice.

Amarda Shehu, a computer science professor at George Mason, published something recently that puts the point more sharply. She describes an AI tool called Einstein that logs into a student’s Canvas account, monitors for new assignments, watches recorded lectures, reads course materials, writes essays with citations, and posts to discussion boards. Autonomously. With the student’s credentials.8

Her framing is precise: calling this a cheating problem isn’t wrong, but it’s dangerously incomplete. A convergence of failures (security, pedagogical, institutional, philosophical) and we’re addressing them with the vocabulary of an earlier era. We keep saying “cheating” because we don’t have a word for what it actually is: the death of a structure that hasn’t been buried.

The educational model that assumed humans would do the reading, synthesize the material, and demonstrate understanding through writing is dead. Not dying. Dead. The credentials still work. The Canvas login page still loads. Assignments still appear on the syllabus. The LMS keeps running. The nails keep growing. But the thing the system was built to contain, the student’s struggle with material, the friction that produces learning, has left the building.

As I explored in The Doing Was the Knowing, the doing is where expertise lives. The verbs (curate, reason, update, act) are the mechanism through which humans develop judgment. Strip the verbs and you don’t get a more efficient expert. You get an empty cockpit.9

Now look at the Canvas scenario again. The student isn’t stripping their own verbs. The agent is stripping them automatically, without the student even registering that something has been lost. The LMS keeps generating assignments. The agent keeps completing them. Everything looks alive. The hair and nails keep growing.

But the learning is dead. And nobody is sitting shiva.

The Mourning We’re Not Doing

This is what the anthropologists understood that we’ve forgotten: mourning isn’t weakness. Mourning is technology.10

Every culture that developed burial rituals was solving the same problem: how do you prevent a community from wasting its resources trying to resurrect what cannot be brought back? How do you redirect energy from the dead toward the living? Robert Hertz argued in 1907 that death rituals exist not for the dead but for the living. They reorganize the community, close the social role of the deceased, and redirect emotional and material investment back toward what’s still alive. 11

Many of these rituals also solved a practical problem: confirming that death had occurred. Before modern medicine, the fear of misdiagnosis was pervasive enough that cultures built structured waiting periods, one to three days of watching, vigils, community observation, to make sure the body stayed dead before anyone committed to burial.12

In Jewish tradition, shiva lasts seven days. You sit low. Mirrors are covered. The community comes to you. You don’t go to it. The structure is rigid not because grief is rigid but because without structure, grief becomes denial. The sitting, the prayers, the shared meals are protocols. They’re the community’s way of saying: this has ended. We see it. Now we can begin what comes next.

The Irish have the wake. The Māori have the tangihanga. The Torajan people of Indonesia keep their dead in the family home for months or years, treating them as “sick” rather than dead, until the community can afford the elaborate funeral that will finally mark the transition.13 Even the cultures that delay acknowledgment eventually perform it. Because without acknowledgment, you can’t adapt.

Van Gennep’s middle phase is where the real work happens. Denial converts to acceptance. The community stops pouring resources into what’s ended and begins building what comes next.

We have no mourning rituals for institutional death.

When a department’s core competency gets automated, we call it “transformation” or “optimization” or “digital modernization.” When an educational model dies, we call it a “cheating crisis” or an “integrity challenge.” When a profession’s verb layer gets stripped by agents, we call it “augmentation” or “upskilling opportunity.”

These are euphemisms. They’re the organizational equivalent of saying the hair is still growing.

The Deployment Overhang

In Anthropic’s analysis of real-world Claude Code sessions, they identify what they call the “deployment overhang,” a pattern specific to their dataset but likely representative of a broader phenomenon. A gap between what AI models can handle and what humans let them handle. Experienced users auto-approve agent actions at roughly double the rate of new users (about 40% versus 20%) but they also interrupt more frequently. The pattern isn’t “trust then ignore.” It’s “trust then watch more carefully.”14

This is mourning in its earliest stage. The experienced user has already accepted that certain tasks, the ones they used to perform manually, are gone. They’ve buried those tasks. They’re watching for something else now. Not whether the agent can do the work, but whether the new work (the monitoring, the evaluating, the deciding-when-to-interrupt) is the right work for a human to be doing.

In that same dataset, only 0.8% of agent actions are classified as irreversible, 80% involve at least one safeguard, and 73% show a human in the loop. We haven’t let go. Not really. We’re still checking the pulse of something whose heart stopped months ago. Still checking. Still watching. Still waiting for someone to tell us the transition is real.

The deployment overhang isn’t a technology problem. It’s a mourning problem. The agents are ready. We’re not. Not because we can’t trust the technology, but because we haven’t built the rituals to mark what we’re losing.

What We Pack for the Journey

The Egyptians buried their dead with everything they’d need for what came next. Tools, bread, gold, linen, servants carved in miniature. The Book of the Dead was a manual. Spells and instructions for navigating the underworld, indexed by hazard. The assumption behind all of it was continuity: the next world works like this one, so pack accordingly.

Every culture that buried grave goods made the same bet. The Vikings sent warriors off in burning ships with their weapons. The Chinese emperor filled a tomb with 8,000 terracotta soldiers. The logic was always the same: what got you here will get you there.

It didn’t. The goods stayed in the tomb. The skills were for a world that no longer applied.

I think about the tens of thousands of engineers at major companies right now carrying the same assumption. My React skills travel. My system design expertise is portable. I’ve shipped production code at scale, that goes with me wherever I go. And they’re not wrong about the past. Those skills were portable, because the world they moved between stayed roughly the same. You could take your tools from one company to another because both companies needed the same kind of toolwork.

But the world those skills were shaped for is the one that’s dying. The codebase you navigated by feel, the architecture decisions you made from hard-won instinct, the debugging intuition you built over a decade of 2 a.m. incidents. Those were grave goods. Valuable in the world that produced them. Not necessarily legible in the one that’s arriving.

You can’t pack for a world that hasn’t been built yet.

What We Bury, What We Keep

Everyone who has lost someone knows this part. The things that persist (the recipes written down, the photographs labeled, the process documents filed) look like the person is still there. The surface keeps performing life for a while. But the thing that made those artifacts mean something, the knower behind the knowing, is gone.

Knowledge isn’t information. It lives in people, not in the systems they leave behind. The particular way a senior engineer could read a failing build and know, not from the logs but from the shape of the failure, what had gone wrong. The analyst who could glance at a dataset and feel where it was lying. The teacher who knew which student’s silence meant confusion and which meant refusal. Those things can’t be stored, transmitted, copied, or indexed. When the person leaves, they leave.

This is where the organizational parallel gets uncomfortable. The verb layer I described earlier doesn’t just degrade when agents take over. It dies. And what persists (the data, the dashboards, the reports, the KPIs) looks like the organization is still alive. It’s still producing output. The hair and nails keep growing.

But the knowing is gone. And unless we mourn it, unless we name what has died and build new structures for what comes next, we’ll keep mistaking information for knowledge, retrieval for understanding, output for expertise.

The Question for This Year

I caught myself the other night. Typing, pausing, reading the screen. And in the pause I realized I couldn’t tell where my thinking ended and the agent’s output began. The boundary was blurry. Maybe it’s always been blurry. But I’d never been unable to find it before.

That’s what’s at stake. Not whether agents can do the work. They can. Not whether humans will be displaced. Some will. What matters is whether we can build the rituals (the institutional, cultural, educational, professional rituals) to mark what’s ending so we can face what’s beginning.

The earliest humans figured this out. They looked at death and invented burial. They looked at loss and invented mourning. They looked at the impossible gap between the living and the dead and built structures to cross it.

We need to figure it out again. Not for bodies this time, but for the structures and competencies and ways of knowing that are dying inside our organizations, our schools, our professions.

The agents are already inside. Shehu is right about that. They’re not at the gates. They’re past the gates, logged in, doing the assignments, filing the reports, writing the code. The question isn’t whether to let them in. The question is whether we have the courage to bury what they’ve replaced, and the wisdom to know what to carry forward.

I closed the laptop. Sat with it for a while. Thought about what’s ending and what’s arriving, and whether anyone gets to choose the boundary between them.

Grieve it and use it. Same morning. Same desk. An answer that shouldn’t satisfy anyone.

Hair and nails keep growing. Until it’s clear, completely and irreversibly clear, that they don’t.

Part of an ongoing exploration of human agency in the age of intelligent systems.

Further Reading

• The Doing Was the Knowing: On CRUD, the verb layer, and what happens to expertise when agents take over the operations.

• The Fire We Carry: On AI as environmental condition, cognitive offloading, and the quiet rewiring of the human mind.

• Intentional Deskilling: On which skills to release, which to keep, and the difference between stripping and letting go.

• Let the Robot Wars Begin!: On compiled intent, agency erosion, and who owns the verbs in 2026.

• Relief Is Not Joy: On the difference between removing discomfort and creating meaning.

Footnotes

I used to be able to read a regular map easily.

Not glance at one — read one. Contour lines, gradient, aspect, the way elevation changes told you where water would pool and where wind would funnel. I learned it from playing around in a backyard that faced a river and hiking with my friends while younger. We needed that knowledge to survive (and also drive to any unkown location).

I recently opened a map online for an unrelated behavioral research topic I was investigating and realized I couldn’t do it anymore. Not fluently. I had to think about what used to be automatic. The skill hadn’t vanished — it had rusted. A couple decades of GPS will do that to you.

I wasn’t upset about it, exactly. I was something else. Unsettled. Because I hadn’t decided to lose that skill. It just... left. It migrated out of me and into a system that does it better, and I didn’t notice until the system wasn’t there.

This is the thing nobody talks about: deskilling is already happening. The only question is whether we do it on purpose or let it happen to us.

The Three Modes

For decades, organizations have talked about upskilling — teaching workers new capabilities to keep pace with technological change. That language was expanded to include cross-skilling — training people across multiple domains to increase adaptability.

But a third category is quietly emerging. One that most organizations are uncomfortable naming.

Intentional deskilling.

Every industrial transition taught organizations how to train people to learn new skills. The AI transition may be the first major transition in which organizations must do this at scale for cognitive work, not just procedural work.

Not the accidental atrophy I experienced with my old school maps. Something deliberate. The organizational capacity to identify which skills should be released — consciously, strategically — because the environment has changed and holding onto them costs more than letting go.

As I explored in The Doing Was the Knowing, the doing is where expertise lives. Strip the verbs from a professional and you don’t get a strategist — you get someone staring at a dashboard they can no longer read. That’s the risk of accidental deskilling.

Intentional deskilling is different. It asks: which of these verbs should I still own, and which should I deliberately hand over — not because they’re unimportant, but because holding all of them prevents me from developing the ones that matter more now?

When Skills Become Infrastructure

Many professions contain skills that were once essential and later became embedded in tools, systems, or infrastructure.

I’ve been calling this pent-up organizational wisdom for a while now — the knowledge that’s so embedded in a system’s structure that it survives every attempt to reorganize it (this exists and persists strongly in government and large or bureaucratic organizations). You can restructure the department, replace the technology, rewrite the process documentation. And somehow the same patterns re-emerge. Not because anyone planned it, but because the structure learned something that no individual remembers deciding.

Ant colonies do something like this. Many species exhibit emergent spatial organization — separate brood areas, refuse zones, and corpse disposal behaviors — without any individual ant understanding the colony-wide plan.1 The organization knows something that no single ant knows. That’s what pent-up organizational wisdom looks like. And it’s what makes deskilling so tricky: you’re not just removing a skill from a person. You’re pulling a thread from a structure that may have reasons you can’t see.

Physicians once performed manual calculations for medication dosing that are now automated through digital systems. Engineers once wrote large portions of code directly in machine language. Pilots once navigated by celestial observation and analog instrumentation.2 Mathematicians once spent hours performing calculations now completed instantly by software.

These changes often did not eliminate expertise. They redistributed it — between people, tools, and organizations.3 The doctor’s skill migrated from arithmetic to clinical judgment. The engineer’s skill migrated from syntax to architecture. The pilot’s skill migrated from navigation to systems management and decision-making under uncertainty.

Research in organizational behavior has long shown that technology doesn’t simply eliminate jobs — it reorganizes skill distributions within them.4 Routine tasks migrate toward automation while human roles move toward supervision, judgment, and interpretation.

Artificial intelligence accelerates this dynamic.5 Many skills that took years to develop are becoming embedded in systems. Drafting code. Generating documentation. Structuring presentations. Analyzing datasets.6 The question for organizations isn’t only what new skills to teach. It’s which old skills to release — and how to release them without losing the judgment they once carried.

There’s a specific mechanism worth naming: automation bias. When decision-support tools become reliable enough to earn trust, practitioners can become less likely to independently verify their outputs — and less likely to catch errors when the system is wrong. The failure mode isn’t that the tool gets it wrong. It’s that no one notices when it does.

From first principles, skill is a closed loop: perception, action, and feedback. When a system takes over the action layer, the human often loses the feedback that kept judgment calibrated. That’s what makes automation bias dangerous — it doesn’t just remove a task, it breaks the loop that maintained competence.

The Identity Problem

This is where it gets hard. Not technically. Emotionally.

Expertise is deeply tied to identity. When professionals master a skill, it becomes part of how they understand themselves. The engineer who spent years learning to write efficient code is that skill in some fundamental way. Asking them to stop writing code — to let the agent do it while they focus on architecture and intent — can feel less like a promotion and more like an erasure.

Think about the professional who memorized the regulatory code — not because they had to look it up often, but because knowing it cold was the thing that made them them. Or the analyst who could build a financial model from a blank spreadsheet faster than anyone in the room. The skill wasn’t just useful. It was load-bearing for their sense of self.

I understand why technological transitions are often resisted not because people oppose innovation, but because innovation threatens the self. “I am the person who can do this” is one of the deepest sentences a professional carries. Change the “this” and you change the person.

There’s a term re-emerging in the research literature for what’s at stake here: epistemic autonomy — the capacity to form your own judgments through your own reasoning. It’s not just a skill. It’s the thing that makes all other skills yours. When you hand over a capability you’ve mastered, you’re not just outsourcing a task. You’re renegotiating your relationship with your own competence. The question isn’t whether the tool does it better. It’s whether you still know enough to judge.

Intentional deskilling has to reckon with this. It can’t be a memo. It can’t be a training module. It has to treat skill transition as both a technical process and a psychological one. You’re not just changing what people do. You’re changing who they believe they are.

The Organizational Blind Spot

Most organizations know how to train people to do new things. Far fewer know how to help people stop doing things that no longer matter.

This reveals a persistent organizational blind spot. I’ve watched teams cling to legacy workflows not because the new system is worse, but because the old workflow is the team’s identity. The weekly manual report that takes six hours and could be automated in minutes persists not because it’s useful but because the person who creates it has built twenty years of self-worth around being the person who creates it.

There’s an old bit of folk biology — the idea that hair and nails keep growing after death. They don’t. What actually happens is that the skin dehydrates and recedes, making it look like growth. The appearance of vitality is really the surrounding tissue retreating.7

The manual report is hair and nails.
The original function may be dead.
The identity built around it persists.

And without a way to mourn it — to acknowledge what’s ending and honor what it meant — people will keep producing the report, and the organization will keep accepting it, and everyone will pretend the structure is still alive.

The organizations that navigate this transition best won’t be the ones that automate fastest. They’ll be the ones that build rituals for letting go. That treat deskilling as a human process, not just a technical one. That understand the difference between stripping a skill and releasing one.

The Gradient

I keep thinking about what I’ve started calling the Agency Gradient — a simple way to describe how human roles shift as machines gain capability. As automation improves, organizations often try to move human roles upward toward judgment, direction, and meaning. Whether that migration succeeds depends on whether people retain enough understanding to evaluate the systems they now oversee. Intentional deskilling is how you move up the gradient without falling off it.

You can see the cognitive stack beginning to rearrange:

Before: human memory → human reasoning → human production
After: human judgment → human direction → human meaning → AI reasoning → AI production

Evidence from early generative-AI deployments suggests this shift is uneven. In one large customer-support study, introducing a generative-AI assistant increased worker productivity by about 14% on average, but the gains were concentrated among less experienced agents, while top performers saw smaller improvements.8 The gradient isn’t uniform. It tends to help those still learning the verbs more than those who already mastered them.

Moving up that stack means letting go of the lower rungs. Not because they’re unimportant — they built the ladder. But because clinging to them while the environment shifts means you can’t reach the next one.

The paradox from The Doing Was the Knowing applies: the doing built the knowing. The skills you’re releasing are the ones that made you competent enough to know they should be released. That’s not a contradiction. It’s the structure of growth. Every stage of development involves letting go of what got you here to reach what’s next.

The real question is whether the letting go is something that happens to you — the way my map-reading skills rusted while I wasn’t looking — or something you choose. Intentionally. With your eyes open. Knowing what you’re losing and why.

The Three Skills of Letting Go

Upskilling teaches us how to grow.

Cross-skilling teaches us how to adapt.

Intentional deskilling teaches us how to evolve.

The future of work may not belong to those who accumulate the most skills. It may belong to those who know which skills to release — and who have the judgment to know the difference between a skill that should be preserved and one that should be set down.

Somewhere, someone still carries a compass they don’t need. And somewhere, their kids have never held one.

They’ll survive without it. That’s not the question.

The question is whether they’ll be the same kind of people without the experience of needing one.

I’m starting to think the answer is no. And I’m starting to think that’s okay — as long as we know what we’re trading.

The dangerous version isn’t letting go. It’s letting go without noticing.

Part of an ongoing exploration of human agency in the age of intelligent systems.

Further Reading

• The Doing Was the Knowing — On CRUD, the verb layer, and what happens to expertise when agents take over the operations.

• The Fire We Carry — On AI as environmental condition, cognitive offloading, and the quiet rewiring of the human mind.

• Let the Robot Wars Begin! — On compiled intent, agency erosion, and who owns the verbs in 2026.

• Skin Deep — On the 200 milliseconds between decision and awareness, and what lives in the gap.

Footnotes

When one of my sons learned to build a fire (more like a bonfire) he was very excited. He wasn’t excited because he needed to use this skill all day every day — it was because he wanted to learn. He’d speak to his friends, experiment, watch a video, gather kindling, arrange it in a teepee or layer sticks and logs the way he discovered how. Everything was technically correct.

It wouldn’t light.

When he was younger, he tried over and over initially. Adjusted the spacing. Blew on the embers. Got smoke but no flame. After twenty minutes he looked at me, frustrated, and I crouched down beside him and did what my father had done with me — moved two sticks, added a handful of dry leaves or an old newspaper in a spot that shouldn’t have mattered, and waited. I remember the first time I lit a fire with my father like it was yesterday, even though it is now decades later.

The fire caught.

“How did you know to do that?” he asked.

I didn’t, exactly. My hands knew. Many years of campfires, burned fingers, failed attempts, and the particular way air moves through wood when the gap is right. Knowledge that lives in the body, not the brain. The kind you can’t look up.

He could have asked an AI for the optimal fire-starting configuration. He would have gotten a better answer than mine — faster, more precise, with citations. But he wouldn’t have learned what I learned crouching beside my father: that fire is a conversation, not a formula. That the wood talks back if you listen. That some knowledge only forms through failure, patience, and heat.

Something about that moment with my kid also stayed with me.

Not because my son couldn’t start the fire. That part was normal. Every generation has to learn certain things the hard way.

What lingered was a different question: what kinds of knowledge will still require that kind of learning — the friction, the failure, the heat — in a world where intelligent systems can answer almost anything instantly?

Over the past year I’ve been noticing subtle changes in how thinking itself happens around me — in my work, in my conversations, and even in the way my children interact with technology. At first it felt like a productivity shift. But the more I paid attention, the more it seemed like something deeper: a change in the architecture of cognition.

Over the next several essays I want to explore that shift a bit. Not from the perspective of AI capability, but from the perspective of human agency. What happens when intelligence becomes something we interact with rather than something we carry entirely inside our own heads?

We’ll look at why technology may quietly reshape cognition, why organizations may need to intentionally unlearn certain forms of expertise, and why the most valuable human skills may be migrating toward judgment, direction, and meaning.

But to understand where we may be going, it helps to start with something much older.

Fire.

The Wrong Historical Analogy

When people try to understand the moment we’re living through, they reach for the Industrial Revolution.

Factories replaced muscle. Machines reorganized labor. Cities reshaped economies.

But the Industrial Revolution didn’t fundamentally alter the structure of human cognition. Workers thought the same way after the power loom as before it — they just thought about different things.

A better analogy may be much older.

Fire.

Richard Wrangham’s research argues that the control of fire — and particularly cooking — may have altered caloric efficiency in ways that contributed to supporting the energetic demands of the expanding human brain, though the hypothesis remains one part of a multivariate picture.1 Fire extended the day, reorganized social interaction around the hearth, and may have literally enabled the cognitive capacity that distinguishes us from other primates.

Fire wasn’t merely a tool. It became an environmental condition. It changed what the brain could become.

Artificial intelligence may be becoming one as well.

For most of history, tools extended human capability. The hammer extended force. The telescope extended sight. The printing press extended knowledge. AI may be the first widely available tool that directly participates in complex cognitive tasks such as reasoning, synthesis, and planning — which is another way of saying it may be the first tool that extends thought itself.

That difference matters. Because when the environment around thinking changes, the brain does not remain the same.

The Brain Optimizes for Efficiency

Cognitive science has consistently shown that humans shift mental work into the environment when reliable tools exist. Psychologists call this cognitive offloading — the delegation of mental operations to external systems such as devices, written notes, or other people.2

This is not a weakness. It’s one of humanity’s great strengths.

Humans are uniquely good at constructing cognitive ecosystems. We store knowledge in books. We store navigation in maps. We store arithmetic in machines. Each time we do this, something subtle happens.

The brain reorganizes.

Neural systems that are heavily used strengthen. Systems that are rarely used gradually diminish. The brain is not a museum that preserves everything it once held. It’s an optimization engine that allocates resources toward whatever the environment demands.

As I explored in The Doing Was the Knowing, the doing is where expertise lives. The verbs — curate, reason, update, act — are the mechanism through which humans develop judgment. The brain doesn’t just use those operations. It becomes those operations through repeated practice. Strip the verbs and you don’t lose efficiency. You lose the architecture that made competence possible.

The London Taxi Driver Lesson

One of the clearest demonstrations comes from research on London taxi drivers.

For decades, drivers seeking a license had to master “The Knowledge” — a detailed mental map of roughly 25,000 streets and thousands of landmarks. Neuroscientists studying these drivers discovered that experienced cabbies had significantly enlarged posterior hippocampi, a brain region associated with spatial navigation and memory.3

Years of navigation training physically reshaped the brain. The posterior hippocampus grew. The anterior shrank. The longer someone had been driving, the more pronounced both effects became.

Later studies revealed the complement. When navigation is habitually outsourced to GPS, reliance on hippocampal-dependent spatial strategies decreases and self-guided spatial memory performance declines — and the longitudinal data suggests GPS use caused the decline, not the other way around. Whether this produces lasting structural change is not yet settled.4 The brain reallocates resources. Practice builds structure. Delegation dissolves it.

I think about this every time I watch my daughter navigate. She’s growing up in a world where the blue dot does the wayfinding. She’ll never be lost the way I was lost — truly, disoriently, productively lost — wandering streets in a foreign city (or your own neighborhood...) with a paper map and the growing panic that I’d misread the scale. That panic taught me something GPS never will: what it feels like when the territory exceeds the map.

Something I plan to explore in more detail soon: information answers what is. Knowledge answers what does it mean, and what should I do. The taxi driver who memorized 25,000 streets didn’t just have information about London. They had knowledge of it — embodied, contextual, alive in their hippocampus. The GPS holds the same information. It holds none of the knowledge.

AI Offloads Something Different

Previous technologies mostly externalized memory, navigation, or calculation.

Artificial intelligence interacts with a deeper layer. Reasoning. Planning. Interpretation. Synthesis.

For the first time in history, large portions of knowledge work itself can be partially externalized. Controlled experiments at Harvard Business School and MIT have shown that generative AI assistance significantly alters how professionals approach complex tasks — often increasing productivity while simultaneously changing how cognitive effort is distributed across planning, drafting, and evaluation phases.5 The effects are not uniform — in some settings, less experienced workers benefit most, while top performers show mixed results (at least for the earlier form of AIs, 2026 is likely going to be the year of top performer impact).

The system changes. The thinking changes with it.

We already operate beneath our own awareness — the brain constructing the feeling of deciding after the decision is made, the Dorsolateral Prefrontal Cortex (DLPFC) writing a story about agency that arrives 200 milliseconds late to a party that started without it. We were already strangers to our own cognition. Now we’re building systems that interact with that cognition in ways we can’t fully trace.

My son’s fire eventually burned for multiple hours. He sat by it, poking the logs the way boys have poked fires for thousands of years. At some point he said, “I get it now.”

He didn’t mean the fire-starting technique. He meant the thing you can’t explain — the relationship with material, the patience, the listening. The knowledge that forms only through contact.

What happens when AI mediates more and more of that contact?

What Migrates, What Atrophies

Whenever technology absorbs a capability, that capability doesn’t disappear. It migrates. Arithmetic migrated to conceptual mathematics. Photography migrated to composition. Human value shifts upward — less execution, more judgment; less production, more intention. I’ve started thinking of this as the Agency Gradient, and we’ll explore it more deeply later in this series.

But the deeper question isn’t whether AI makes people more productive. It’s what forms of thinking we stop practicing. Neural circuits strengthen with use and weaken with disuse.6 If humans stop reasoning independently, reasoning processes may increasingly occur in interaction with external systems rather than entirely within individual cognition. That isn’t dystopian speculation. It’s how brains work.

A new literacy is emerging: the ability to direct intelligence rather than merely produce it. To frame questions. To evaluate reasoning. To maintain agency in systems that generate answers faster than you can think.

The Fire We Carry

Fire allowed humans to cook food, survive harsh climates, and gather after dark. It also burned cities.

That’s the deal with every powerful thing.

Anthropologists believe fire reshaped the human brain gradually — through centuries of altered diet, extended days, and the social structures that formed around the hearth. The tool became an environmental condition. And the brain, as we’ve seen, adapts to its environment. It strengthens what it uses. It lets go of what it doesn’t need anymore.

This is what makes AI different from every tool that came before it.

The hammer extended force. The printing press extended knowledge. GPS extended navigation — and as we saw with the London cabbies, the brain quietly reorganized in response. But AI isn’t extending a single capability. It’s reaching into the whole stack: reasoning, synthesis, planning, judgment. The cognitive work that used to define what it meant to be competent at something.

Which brings me back to my son and the fire.

He could have looked it up. He would have gotten a better answer than anything I gave him — faster, cleaner, more precise. But he would have skipped something I didn’t know how to name until I watched him sitting quietly by the embers afterward, ash on his jeans, with that particular stillness that comes when something difficult has finally yielded to you.

That stillness isn’t satisfaction. It’s the feeling of a new capability forming inside you. The kind that only comes from staying in contact with a hard thing long enough for it to change you.

The question at the center of everything I’ve been writing about AI is this: if the brain reorganizes around what the environment demands — and AI is rapidly changing what the environment demands — what happens to the knowing that requires struggle to form?

Not information. Not answers. The deeper kind.

The kind that lives in the hands.

I don’t think we’ve seriously asked that question yet. And I think how we answer it — individually, in our schools, in our organizations — will shape what kind of minds we carry into whatever comes next.

The question is not whether the flame exists.

The question is who learns to carry it wisely.

And whether we’ll still have the hands — calloused, practiced, burned, and healed — to hold it at all.

Part of an ongoing exploration of human agency in the age of intelligent systems.

Further Reading

• The Doing Was the Knowing — On CRUD, the verb layer, and what happens to expertise when agents take over the operations.

• Let the Robot Wars Begin! — On compiled intent, agency erosion, and who owns the verbs in 2026.

• Your brain is changing from AI right now - TranscendingX #90: Michael J. Jabbour with Uri Schneider. Full podcast below:

Footnotes

My youngest comes to the computer expecting it to know everything. Her expectations are high and her patience is low — she wants the answer, not the journey. So I’ve been teaching her to say something different: “Teach me, not tell me.” She doesn’t have to use those words exactly, because she’s little and the grammar wanders, but the intent is unmistakable. I want her to want the path, not just the destination. I want her to walk it.

My thirteen-year-old said something different to me this past weekend. He was working through a problem — something for school, math or science, I don’t remember which — and he looked at me and said, “I ask the AI questions, then think about what it says.”

I told him the opposite: “Always think before you ask.”

He looked at me like I’d handed him a wrench when he’d asked for a flashlight.

Two kids. Two instincts about where to stand relative to the machine. One is learning to ask for the teaching. The other wants to be informed. Neither wants to be replaced — but they’re negotiating the boundary differently, in real time, at the kitchen table, over homework.

I keep thinking about these two moments. Not as parenting wins or losses — they were neither — but as something larger. Because what my kids were working through, without any framework or jargon to lean on, is the same question every piece of software is trying to answer right now:Where does the human go?

Not whether. Where.

These aren’t just parenting questions. They’re architecture questions. And every system being built or rebuilt this year — every CRM, every workflow engine, every enterprise platform — is making the same negotiation my kids were making over homework. The boundary is moving. The question is who notices, and who gets to choose where it lands. More on this in my intro, Let the Robot Wars Begin!

The Grammar We Inherited

For half a century, almost every application you’ve ever used has been built on four operations: Create, Read, Update, Delete. CRUD. The thing about CRUD that nobody says out loud: it was never really about the software.

CRUD assumes a human on the other side of every operation. A person who decides what to create. Who knows what to search for. Who determines what needs editing and what needs deleting. The software held the nouns — the records, the fields, the data. The human supplied the verbs. Every click was a decision. Every save was a judgment call.

The human was the verb layer.

I don’t think we noticed because it was so total. Like asking a fish to describe water. For fifty years, we sat between what we wanted to accomplish and the data we needed to accomplish it, and we operated. We curated our own inboxes. We reasoned through our own pipelines. We updated our own records. We did the work.

Step back far enough, and the whole arrangement falls into three levels. At the bottom, data: the nouns — records, objects, files, KPIs. This is where Classic CRUD lives, and it isn’t going anywhere. In the middle, operations: the verbs — deciding, sorting, weighing, acting. For fifty years, humans lived here, operating between intent and information. At the top, intent: the goals — relationships, values, purpose. What you were actually trying to accomplish. That was always there, but it was implicit, encoded in the head of whoever was doing the work. Never formalized. Never had to be.

Jens Rasmussen1 saw something similar in the 1980s when he described three levels of cognitive control: skill-based behavior operating on raw signals, rule-based behavior operating on signs, and knowledge-based behavior operating on symbols. Data, operations, intent — by different names, in a different decade, pointing at the same structure.

The structure isn’t new. What’s new — and what I began exploring in Let the Robot Wars Begin! — is that someone else is moving into the middle.

The Assumption Breaks

Consider a salesperson. Not an abstraction — a real one. Someone who manages a pipeline of fifty deals across three territories, who opens their CRM on Monday morning and starts working.

In Classic CRUD, the system holds the deals. The salesperson supplies the intelligence. They mentally sort the pipeline — this one’s real, this one’s stalling, this one died two weeks ago but nobody updated the record. They scan for signals: tone from the last call, budget shifts, a competitor name dropped casually. They build a picture no dashboard captures. They update the fields. They send the follow-up. They close or they move on.

Now reimagine every one of those operations with an agent in the middle.

Curate. The agent decides what’s relevant. It surfaces the three deals that need attention today and deprioritizes the twelve that don’t. The salesperson used to do this — it was the first fifteen minutes of their morning, and it was where intuition lived.

Reason. The agent weighs signals and determines what’s next. It cross-references email sentiment, deal velocity, competitive intelligence, and recommends an approach. The salesperson used to hold that context — loosely, imperfectly, but theirs. Now the synthesis happens before they see the screen.

Update. This is the one that tricks you. In Classic CRUD, Update is a discrete event — a human changes a field, one value becomes another. In Agentic CRUD, Update is continuous. The system is always re-weighting, always adjusting confidence scores and priority rankings. The pipeline looks different this morning and you don’t know why. The agent re-assessed overnight, and the world shifted while you slept. Same word. Different reality.

Do. Classic CRUD never needed this. It was inward-facing — operations on data, inside the system’s walls. But agents face outward. They send the email. They book the meeting. They trigger the workflow. Do is the operation that crosses the boundary between record and reality, and it’s the one Classic CRUD never contemplated — because the human was always the one who crossed it.

Parasuraman, Sheridan, and Wickens2 identified these same four classes of automation back in 2000: information acquisition, information analysis, decision selection, and action implementation. Curate, Reason, Update, Do — by different names, in a research paper most practitioners never read.

The acronym stays. The letters stay. What changes is everything inside them. Data operations become decision operations.3 And the human — the salesperson who used to be the verb layer — finds themselves a floor up, in a place they’ve never had to articulate before.

That displacement isn’t unique. It looks different depending on where you sit. If you’re a designer, it means: design for goals, not actions. Your interface isn’t a place where humans perform operations anymore — it’s a place where humans articulate intent and evaluate outcomes. If you’re a developer, it means: the contracts you’re building aren’t just about what data goes where — they’re about what the system is for. If you’re a manager, it means: your team’s job is defining what good looks like. Clearly. Explicitly. Repeatedly. Because agents will execute against whatever definition you give them, and if you’ve never had to formalize your intent before, you’re about to discover how much of it was tacit — living in hallway conversations and tribal knowledge and the gut feelings of people who’ve done the work long enough to stop explaining why.

The humans are moving up. It’s not as simple as it sounds.

The Paradox

Moving up sounds like a promotion. It isn’t. Or rather, it is, and it’s also something more complicated than that.

The verbs are where competence lives. The salesperson who manually worked their pipeline didn’t just manage deals — they knew their deals. The curating built intuition. The reasoning built judgment. The updating built awareness. The doing built confidence. Each verb was a repetition, and each repetition was a lesson, and the accumulation of those lessons over months and years is what we call expertise.

The doing was the knowing.

Strip the verbs from a professional and you don’t get a strategist. You get someone staring at a dashboard they can no longer read — not because the data is hidden, but because the understanding was never in the data. It was in the handling of the data. The touching, sorting, weighing, second-guessing, correcting. The friction was the teacher.

The efficiency that moves humans out of the operations also removes the feedback loop that built their capacity to operate. Promote someone out of the verbs and you cut off the very practice that taught them how to set goals.4

We’ve seen it before. Pilots who can’t hand-fly after years of autopilot. Doctors whose diagnostic instincts dull when algorithms pre-screen. Navigators who can’t read a map because GPS made the reading unnecessary. Parasuraman and Manzey5 named two failure modes: complacency — poorer detection of malfunctions when systems appear reliable — and automation bias — acting on incorrect recommendations because you’ve stopped checking. Endsley6 documented the mechanism: situation awareness — perception, comprehension, projection — all three degrade when operators are removed from direct control. You can’t maintain awareness of a process you no longer perform. The awareness wasn’t a separate skill. It was a byproduct of the doing.

My kids see it. That’s what strikes me.

My youngest, who comes to the machine expecting answers — she’s negotiating the same boundary as that salesperson. That’s why I keep teaching her to say “teach me, not tell me.” She needs the handling. She needs the friction. The path is the point, even when she’d rather skip it.

“Always think before you ask” is a father saying: don’t outsource reasoning. The order matters. If you reason first, the agent’s answer sharpens your thinking. If you ask first, the agent’s answer becomes your thinking. Same tool. Different sequence. Entirely different outcome.

The risk isn’t that agents get it wrong. The risk is that agents get it right — often enough, long enough — that humans stop participating. And then, on the day the agent gets it wrong, no one in the room has the competence to notice.

Where We Stand

I’m not going to give you a checklist. Checklists are tools for doing. And the doing is exactly what’s changing. What I can offer is a set of orientations.

If you build systems, build them so the human can see the verbs. Surface the Curate — show what was filtered and why. Surface the Reason — show the weights and trade-offs. Make the Update visible — what changed, when, and on whose authority. Let the Do be revocable — because action in the world is not the same as action on a record, and the undo button matters more when the agent is the one pressing send.

If you manage teams, your new job is legibility of intent. The more clearly your organization can articulate what it’s trying to accomplish — not in KPIs, but in purpose — the better agents will serve it. And the more clearly your people can see the verbs still available to them, the less likely they are to atrophy in the gap between goal and outcome.

If you’re a practitioner — the salesperson, the designer, the analyst — protect your verbs. Keep your hands in the work. Not all of it. Not the parts that are genuinely mechanical. But the parts that teach you something. The curating that builds intuition. The reasoning that sharpens judgment. You will not get those back by reading the agent’s summary. Brynjolfsson and McAfee7 were right: the productive path is racing with the machine, not against it. But racing with it means you have to keep running. The moment you sit down, you’re a passenger.

This is part of what we’re building with Amplifier — an open-source agent framework where the kernel provides the data structures and everything about how agents curate, reason, update, and act lives in replaceable modules at the edges. This isn’t theory. People are building it.

But the question — the one my kids were negotiating at the kitchen table — isn’t ultimately about software. It’s about identity. Who are you when the verbs that defined your expertise belong to something else? What remains when the doing is done for you?

I think the answer lives at the top. Not as a retreat — as a responsibility. Intent isn’t just what you want to accomplish. It’s what you believe matters, and why, and for whom. That was always there. We just never had to be articulate about it, because we were too busy doing the work to stop and say what the work was for.

I watched my son hesitate before pressing enter.

And the question — the one that matters, the one he’s already living — isn’t whether to use the machine.

Where do the humans stand?

Further Reading

• Let the Robot Wars Begin! — The 2026 opening: compiled intent, agency erosion, and who owns the verbs.

• The Flip — On the perceptual shift that happens when you start working with AI instead of on it, and why the reorientation changes everything downstream.

• Total Transformation — On dragonflies, metamorphosis, and the question of what kind of change AI is actually asking of us.

• Flawed. Unfixable. And Unbreakable. — On course correction as a superpower, and why the capacity to recover matters more than the ability to avoid failure.

Multiple breakthrough moments at the end of December, it seems I am not alone. More as January started. All leading to a flood of ideas — some not yet actionable because the technology isn’t ready, some immediately implementable, others I designed, tested, and completed in less than a day. In January. Sometimes on a plane with terrible internet.

These breakthroughs are amazing, fun, and dangerous. They lead to unknown consequences and unfinished work — though the net is positive. The things that needed finishing got finished. The value created was real. The acceleration was real.

But the mess was also real. And finding a clean thread through it took longer than I expected.

Here’s where I’ve landed.

The Year of the Verb

2026 is going to be the year of agentic robots, agentic science, and automated new knowledge creation. Before and up to 2025, this was the domain of scientists, PhDs, and research organizations with timelines measured in decades. Things are changing fast — likely faster than groups of humans can keep up.

My team has been deep in digital agents for some time now — minimally a year in self-modulating AI agents. We’ve started calling the shift what it is: the move from compiled code to compiled intent. The software doesn’t execute your instructions anymore. It executes your goals. That difference sounds subtle until you live inside it for a week, and then you can’t unsee it.

Moltbot, Clawdbot, OpenClaw — whatever it will be called tomorrow — these are agentic communities. The first of a set of solutions designed for agents, not humans. We are about to experience the transition from a drizzle to a waterfall of self-modulating, self-improving, and self-regulating technologies — all created at, deployed to, and managed at the edge of the current internet.

This is a pattern not well understood. Not contemplated fully by organizations around the world. And potentially very disruptive to all current and future forms of work.

Pay Attention to Your Own Attention

Journaling this year will matter more than any year in the last twenty.

Not because the changes are bigger — they are — but because it will be difficult to remember and track the shifts in your own ideas, perspectives, beliefs, and opinions as all of this transforms around you. There is no need to write extensively or think hard about the format. When you have an idea that seems startling or novel, jot it down. The date. The stimulus. That’s it. You’ll want the record later.

As robots gain skills at exponential speed, paying attention to your own decision-making becomes critical. When you reach for that drink, or utensil, or snack — something is happening in your mind, your body, that you didn’t fully initiate. Pay attention. Agency erosion is real, and the tools naturally enable it as they anticipate your moves and strip friction from the thinking, building, and testing process. What feels like convenience is often a trade you didn’t agree to.

I’m watching this play out in my own house. My youngest wants the machine to teach her — she wants the path, not the destination. My thirteen-year-old told me last weekend he wants to ask the machine first, then think about what it says. I told him the opposite: always think before you ask. Same tool. Different sequence. Entirely different outcome. This is agency fluctuating in real time, at the kitchen table, over homework.

Compiled Intent and the New CRUD

This compiled intent will also change how we build and discover things. The clearest example is already scaling — in software development.

For fifty years, developers organized their world around a construct called CRUD: Create, Read, Update, Delete. The nouns of all systems. The verbs? Those were executed by humans — on systems, through interfaces designed for human hands and human judgment. The human was the verb layer.

The move to agentic has changed that.

The new Agentic CRUD: Curate, Reason, Update Continuously, Do. The verb layer. Agents will do those jobs. This pushes humans up another layer of the stack — into the compiled intent layer — where you stop telling the system what to do and start telling it what you’re trying to accomplish, and why.

The question this raises is not whether humans will still be needed. Of course they will. The question is what happens to the expertise that was built through the doing — the sorting, weighing, deciding, correcting. The friction that was the teacher. What do you lose when you stop doing the work?

I wrote a more detailed description of this in The Doing Was the Knowing — what CRUD becomes when agents own the verbs.

Further Reading

The Doing Was the Knowing — On CRUD, the verb layer, and what happens to expertise when agents take over the operations.

The Flip — On the perceptual shift that happens when you start working with AI instead of on it.

Total Transformation — On dragonflies, metamorphosis, and the question of what kind of change AI is actually asking of us.

The Setup

For my theologians out there, you already know this story. But we usually tell it flat, like a children’s book. If you slow it down and take it seriously, it turns into something far more uncomfortable. And far more relevant.

Adam and Eve were living in pure abundance.1 No scarcity. No tradeoffs. No friction. They had responsibility over everything, but not in the exploitative sense. They cared for the world because nothing inside them pulled against that care. The warp and woof of their existence were perfectly aligned.

According to the ancient tradition, they did not have “skin” the way we do now.2 Their bodies did not conceal what was inside them. Light radiated outward. What they were on the inside showed up immediately on the outside. No performance. No hiding. No gap between intention and action. This matters for what comes next: a system whose internal state is visible cannot deceive itself about what it has become.

Inside the Garden stood two trees.

One was the Tree of Life. Eat from it and you live forever.

The other was the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil.3 Not information. Not data. Knowledge in the sense of mixture. The ability to experience contradiction inside yourself. Wanting something even when you know you should not.

Then the serpent shows up.4

Not a cartoon snake. A serious creature. Upright. Persuasive. Smart enough to reframe reality without lying outright.

It says to Eve, “That fruit looks incredible. Eat it and you’ll be more like the Creator.”

Eve answers correctly. “That is literally the one thing we’re not allowed to touch.”

And here is the move. The subtle one.5

“You’re right,” the serpent says. “Don’t eat it. Just touch it. No rule against that, as far as I know.”

This is not rebellion. This is boundary testing.

Eve evaluates. She touches it. Nothing explodes. No alarms go off. The system appears stable. So she turns to Adam and basically says, “Dude, I checked. Seems fine.”

Adam eats.

And immediately, nothing physical changes. The world does not collapse. The Garden does not burn.

But internally, everything fractures.6

Shame appears for the first time. Guilt. Self-awareness that does not feel empowering but exposing. They suddenly experience themselves as naked. Not just unclothed, but vulnerable in a way they have never known. The luminous transparency is gone. Now there is an inside that differs from the outside. Now there is something to hide.

So they hide.

And G-d calls out (while they are hiding in the bushes). Not because He does not know where they are, but because relationship requires a response.

“Where are you?”

Not “what’s your GPS location.” More like, “Where are you now?”

Adam answers with fear. Fear enters human language at this moment. And then deflection.7

“I heard You and I was afraid… because I am naked.”

G-d asks the only question that matters.

“Who told you that you are naked? Did you eat from the tree I told you not to eat from?”

Adam deflects. Eve deflects. Responsibility fragments the same way innocence just did.

Now comes the part people get wrong.

They are not expelled because they are weak. They are expelled because they are dangerous.8

Because at this moment, something terrifying becomes possible.

If Adam now eats from the Tree of Life, he will live forever in a broken state.

Eternal existence with internal contradiction. Infinite life without repair. A system that cannot die and cannot heal.

That is not mercy. That is catastrophe.

So G-d removes them from the Garden. Not as punishment, but as containment.

And He stations angels with a flaming, ever-turning sword to block the path back to the Tree of Life.9 Not to keep humanity out forever. To keep humanity from locking brokenness into eternity.

First comes exile. Then labor. Then history. Then death. Then struggle. Only then can repair even exist as a concept.

Because infinity plus corruption is not redemption. It is permanent failure.

That is the structure. Everything else is commentary.

What follows weaves together every major thread from 2025. Each concept links back to its full exploration. The structure is deliberate: read straight through to see how they connect, then follow whatever thread pulls you. This is the map. The linked articles are the territory.

The Look Back: 2025 as a Systems Failure (and Warning)

And that is where this story stops being ancient.

Here is the uncomfortable pattern that surfaced again and again this year, across people, teams, institutions, and increasingly, AI-mediated organizations:

As systems scale, they outgrow their ability to notice when they are wrong.

Three failure modes kept appearing. They are distinct but they compound.

Failure Mode One: Outsourced Judgment

We delegate thinking to tools, rituals, committees, and algorithms. Then we experience a strange alienation from results. I called this the phantom limb of intelligence: the sensation of agency where none remains. Organizations do this with better dashboards. Responsibility diffuses across workflows and metrics until no one is steering, yet everyone feels accountable. The capacity for correction becomes a forgotten task, buried under the startup cost of admitting something might be wrong.

This is how systems lose the ability to see their own internal state. The organizational equivalent of trading luminous skin for opaque hiding.

Failure Mode Two: Frictionless Drift

When friction disappears, people feel relief, not health. Organizations make the same mistake. Smooth operation gets mistaken for alignment. The absence of pain becomes the success metric. Your TI-85 never said no, and neither do systems optimized to minimize resistance.

Early warning signals vanish. By the time discomfort returns, it arrives as crisis instead of correction. This is the geometry of crisis: context saturation, the moment when your current frame can no longer contain what reality demands. Children naturally pause when confused. They slow down, ask strange questions, reorganize understanding. Organizations treat confusion as defect. So they push through. They optimize it away. And in doing so, they lose the beautiful flaw that would have saved them.

Failure Mode Three: Continuation as Goal

This is how institutions become too big to fail, too optimized to pause, and too distributed to feel responsibility. They cannot stop without risking collapse. They cannot admit error without destabilizing themselves. Continuation becomes the goal. Survival masquerades as health.

By mid-2025, this started to feel familiar in a darker way. Not dramatic. Subtly off. Like that moment when you realize a system is still working, but no longer know why.

People respond to this moment in predictable ways. Some retreat into false binaries: human vs. machine, efficiency vs. empathy. I described these as the three postures: prophets of doom, ostriches, and weavers. Others freeze, paralyzed by paradox. A smaller group learns to hold contradiction without resolving it too early. They design systems that gain efficiency through humanity rather than at its expense - pursuing total transformation rather than incremental optimization. I called this the last skill: the ability to stay oriented when the map dissolves.

The real danger is not intelligence. It never was.

The danger is permanence without repair.

This is not a hypothetical concern. The people building these systems are explicitly framing continuation as inevitable.

In a May 2024 conversation at MIT, Sam Altman described AI as potentially “the biggest, the best, and the most important” technology revolution. He predicted AI “will continue to get way more capable” and “will become ubiquitous as time goes on.” His framing is relentlessly optimistic: acceleration is inevitable, integration is irreversible, and the question is simply how to navigate it well.

This framing is precisely the problem the Garden story warns against.

“Ubiquitous” and “inevitable” are just softer words for infinity plus corruption. The question was never whether AI would become powerful. The question is whether we retain the capacity for course correction, or whether we’ve built systems that only know how to accelerate. Altman’s framing assumes continuation is neutral. The Garden story says continuation is only neutral if the system is aligned. If it isn’t, continuation compounds the error. Forever.

Biology already solved this. When context collapses, living systems do not double down on normal operation. They suspend it. Breakdown, convergence, reorganization, consolidation. Recovery requires interruption. The part can only be well if the whole is well. Organizations that survive disruption follow the same arc, usually by accident. Organizations that fail are the ones that insist on continuity at all costs. They never make the flip, the cognitive shift that allows parallel lines to finally meet.

Which brings us back to the opening story, stripped of theology and left as pure logic.

A system that can run forever while broken is not resilient. It is trapped.

Adam and Eve were removed from infinity so that repair could remain possible.

Modern organizations face the same constraint, whether they admit it or not.

The Choice We Still Have

Here is what the Garden story actually offers, if you take its logic seriously:

G-d chose exile for Adam and Eve. He blocked the path to eternal life because they could not be trusted to block it themselves. The flaming sword was an act of mercy. Forced limits so that repair could happen across time.

We do not get that protection.

No one is going to shut down our runaway systems for us. No angel is stationed at the threshold of infinite acceleration to help us find our frequency again. If we lock ourselves into permanent misalignment, organizational, technological, civilizational, we will stay there.

But here’s what the Garden story actually reveals: the capacity to choose limits is itself the protection. We don’t need angels with flaming swords. We need the wisdom to build our own boundaries before momentum becomes identity.

The window for choosing limits is still open. But it is a window, not a door. It closes.

Either we design systems that know when to stop, systems with ports and purpose, with the capacity to recognize when they are cutting too deep, to pause before momentum becomes identity, or we build things that keep going forever: flawed, unfixable, and convinced that survival means health.

That is not a religious claim.

It is a systems warning.

Adam and Eve did not get to choose their exile. We still can.

And that capacity - to pause, to notice misalignment, to course-correct before permanence sets in - might be the most powerful thing about us.

Not our ability to build systems that never stop. Our ability to build systems that know when to.

We’re built for repair. We always have been.

The Logic, Simply

If you want the argument without the narrative10:

1. Repair requires pause. You cannot fix something that refuses to stop moving.

2. Infinite continuation, by definition, never pauses. A system designed to run forever has no built-in moment for correction.

3. Misaligned systems that continue will compound their misalignment. Small errors become large errors. Drift becomes direction. Survival instinct replaces purpose.

4. Therefore: a system that can run forever while broken is not resilient. It is trapped.

5. The only protection is chosen limits - and we still have it. Either build the capacity to stop of self-regulation into the system now, or accept that the system will eventually optimize itself into permanent failure.

This is why mortality was reintroduced to the human story. This is why organizations that survive disruption are the ones that can interrupt themselves. This is why “inevitable” and “ubiquitous” should make us nervous, not reassured.

The question is not whether we can keep going.

The question is whether we should.

This piece draws on themes explored throughout 2025 at michaeljjabbour.substack.com. For those who want to go deeper: The Flip for the cognitive mechanics of reframing under pressure, The Geometry of Crisis for the neuroscience of context collapse, and The Beautiful Flaw for why imperfection might be the feature, not the bug.

Footnotes

As our case is new, so we must think anew and act anew.
-Abraham Lincoln
Second Annual Message to Congress, December 1, 1862

Not all transformations are the same. Learning a new language adds capability. Going to college temporarily disorients. Changing careers restructures your professional identity. But the dragonfly? The dragonfly becomes something ontologically1 different - a creature for whom the water that was home is no longer even breathable.

AI is asking each of us a question we haven’t fully heard yet: What kind of transformation is this requiring of me?

The answer varies by person, by profession, by how much of your identity is woven into tasks that machines can now perform. And the level of transformation predicts the level of pain ahead.

But here’s what the research on transitions shows: people who have a framework for understanding change navigate it better than those who don’t. The dragonfly doesn’t vote on its metamorphosis. We can choose how we understand ours.

That’s the piece. If you want the detailed version - the biology, the psychology, the practical framework - read on.

Generated by Michael J. Jabbour in collaboration Gemini 3-Pro: Neither what it was nor what it will be. The dragonfly at the moment of emergence - clinging to the shell of its former self, wings not yet dry, hanging in the hour between worlds where transformation actually happens.

The dragonfly doesn’t upgrade. It becomes.

Before flight, there’s water. The nymph2 breathes through gills, hunts in the murk, knows nothing of sky. It will live this way for years - sometimes up to five - molting3 a dozen times, each shedding bringing it incrementally closer to something it cannot yet imagine.

Then comes the final molt.

The nymph crawls from the water, grips a stem, and stops breathing the way it has always breathed. Hemolymph - the insect analog of blood - pumps into crumpled tissue that unfurls into wings. Air swallows into the body, stiffening structures that were soft moments before. The creature arches backward, pulls free from its own discarded shell, and waits.

For an hour or more, it is neither what it was nor what it will be.

Then it flies.

This isn’t evolutionary change - not across generations. This is developmental transformation - within one life. Biologists call it incomplete metamorphosis4: no cocoon, no chrysalis.5 Just exposure (Futahashi et al., 2022).

No protective chrysalis. No dormant waiting.

Just the raw, vulnerable work of becoming.

We’ve Seen This Before

In many of our lifetimes, we’ve witnessed several massive transformations of how society works.

Email. The internet. Mobile phones.

And now, AI.

Each arrived with its own texture. Email didn’t replace the letter - it replaced the phone call we never made, the memo we couldn’t be bothered to write, the coordination that was simply too expensive to attempt. The internet didn’t just connect computers - it collapsed the friction of information so completely that we rebuilt entire industries around the assumption that knowledge could flow freely.

Mobile phones didn’t just make us reachable - they rewired our relationship to presence itself.

But here’s what’s worth noticing: the pace is accelerating.

Adoption curves are compressing. Pew’s tracking shows U.S. smartphone ownership moving from 35% in 2011 to a majority by early 2013 - and to 91% by 2025. ChatGPT hit roughly 100 million monthly active users in about two months - one of the fastest consumer ramps on record at the time (Reuters, 2023). A few months later, Threads hit 100 million sign-ups in about five days (TechCrunch, 2023).

The curve isn’t just steep. It’s breaking.

The Taxonomy of Transformation

Not all change changes us equally.

Figure 1: Transformation Spectrum

When you learn a new language, you add something. Your core remains intact. You gain capability without losing identity.

When you go to college, you experience temporary dislocation. The world feels unfamiliar. You don’t quite fit your old context anymore, but you haven’t yet found your new one. Eventually, though, you emerge - expanded, perhaps, but fundamentally recognizable to yourself.

When you change careers, something deeper shifts. The structure of your days changes. Your professional identity - the answer to “what do you do?” - has to be rebuilt. But you’re still you, just reorganized around different work.

The dragonfly? The dragonfly undergoes ontological transformation.6 The nymph doesn’t learn to fly. It doesn’t add wings to its existing form. It becomes a creature for whom flight is possible - which means becoming a creature for whom water is no longer home.

The level of transformation might be a predictor for the level of pain.

What AI Is Actually Asking

The question we should be asking isn’t “Will AI take my job?”

It’s this:

What kind of transformation is AI actually requiring of me?

A first principle: identity is what competence feels like (or is) over time. Do something long enough, in a stable medium, and it becomes “who you are.” Change the medium - and the self has to renegotiate its shape.

Because the honest answer varies - by person, by profession, by how deeply your identity is woven into the tasks AI can now perform.

For some, AI is language learning. A new tool. You add it to your repertoire and carry on.

For others, AI is college. Disorienting, temporarily destabilizing, but ultimately a passage to expanded capability.

recently named this distinction in the developer domain: the difference between coders and engineers. Coders follow instructions well. Engineers decompose problems from first principles. AI is about to expose that gap in a stark way. What’s true in code will be true everywhere.

For still others - and this is the part we don’t talk about enough - AI is the dragonfly moment. The recognition that the water you’ve lived in your whole professional life is no longer your medium.

The research on how humans navigate major transitions goes back over a century. Anthropologist Arnold Van Gennep first described the three-stage pattern in 1909: separation from a prior role, navigating a liminal7 space between what was and what will be, and finally incorporating the new role. Victor Turner extended this work, calling the middle phase “betwixt and between8” a state of ambiguity where the old identity has dissolved but the new one hasn’t yet formed (Turner, 1966; Beech, 2011).

Nancy Schlossberg, professor emeritus of counseling psychology at the University of Maryland, built on this foundation to create a framework for understanding how adults experience transition. She identifies four factors that shape how we navigate change: our situation, our self (identity and coping resources), our support systems, and the strategies we deploy (Schlossberg, 1981; Goodman et al., 2006).

Figure 2: The Three Phases of Transition (Van Gennep/Turner/Schlossberg)

The model reveals something crucial: transition starts with an ending.

This is paradoxical but true. Before we can become what AI makes possible, we have to let go of what we were before AI arrived. And that letting go - that acknowledgment that certain skills, certain sources of pride, certain ways of mattering in the world may be diminishing - is where the real work begins.

The Liminal Zone

Generated by Michael J. Jabbour incollaboration Gemini 3-Pro: The liminal zone: calm water behind, the wave building ahead. You can’t go back to shore. You can’t yet ride what’s coming. The only option is to sit in the uncertainty and wait for the moment when action becomes possible.

The “betwixt and between” middle space, where the old is gone but the new hasn’t yet arrived - it’s where the dragonfly hangs, arched backward, neither aquatic nor aerial.

In organizational change, this phase is where transformations often stall - because uncertainty and role ambiguity reliably drag on well-being, engagement, and performance (Albrecht et al., 2023). The liminal zone feels like confusion, but it’s actually reconfiguration - the period when psychological realignments take place (Beech, 2011).

This is where a lot of knowledge work is right now.

We’re not sure yet what it means to be a writer when writing can be generated. We’re not sure what it means to be a coder when code can be synthesized. We’re not sure what it means to be a knowledge worker when knowledge can be retrieved, summarized, and applied by systems that don’t get tired.

The liminal zone is uncomfortable, frustrating and irritating, yet in some ways oddly peaceful - like the eye of a storm.

But it’s also - and the research confirms this - the seedbed9 for new beginnings.

Is There Value in Learning to Surf?

Here’s the question underneath all of this:

Is there value in learning to surf so you can ride the wave?

Or does the wave just carry you regardless?

If the dragonfly is the transformation, surfing is the strategy.

The honest answer is: it depends on what you want.

Stay close to shore? If you want to minimize disruption, there’s a path for that. Stay close to the shore. Wait for the wave to settle. Let others figure out the new shape of things. This isn’t failure - it’s a legitimate strategy, and for some people in some circumstances, it’s the right one.

Learn the water? If you want to maximize agency, there’s a different path. Learn the water. Study the currents. Develop the muscles and the intuition to read what’s coming and position yourself to catch it.

Neither path eliminates friction.

But one path lets you choose how you engage with what’s coming.

The Spectrum of Options

So what’s actually ahead?

Let me be direct: frustration, friction, and probably some fear.

The psychological research on transitions suggests that even positive changes produce stress (Barsalou, 2024). Physiology often reacts to novelty before meaning catches up; whether we experience it as threat or challenge depends on appraisal.10 And sustained novelty - which is what we’re living through - produces sustained arousal, which eventually produces exhaustion.

But here’s what the research also shows: people who have a framework for understanding transition navigate it better than those who don’t (Weiner, 2009).

The dragonfly has no say in its becoming. But we do.

Figure 3: Navigation Framework for AI Transformation

The Path Forward

Assuming there is a path forward for this to be less painful, more productive, and still as meaningful - how do we find it and learn?

The dragonfly offers one answer.

It doesn’t transform all at once. It molts. Repeatedly. Each molt is an incremental change that preserves the organism while moving it toward what it will become. The nymph doesn’t know it’s becoming a dragonfly. It just keeps doing what nymphs do - eating, growing, shedding - until one day the process reaches a tipping point and everything accelerates.

This is what we’re doing now.

We’re molting. Every time you use an AI tool and notice what it does well and what it misses, you’re molting. Every time you find yourself explaining something to a colleague who hasn’t started yet, you’re molting. Every time you feel the friction between how you used to work and how you’re beginning to work, you’re molting.

The transformation isn’t a single moment.

It’s a series of small deaths and rebirths, each one bringing you closer to a form you can’t yet fully see.

What the Dragonfly Knows

Here’s the thing about dragonfly metamorphosis that biologists find remarkable:

The transformation is a vulnerable time.

The moment of emergence - when the nymph is neither water creature nor air creature - is when predators strike. The wings aren’t dry. The body is soft. The creature cannot flee.

This is true for us, too.

The neutral zone is where we’re most exposed. Where our old competencies don’t quite apply and our new ones haven’t solidified. Where we feel uncertain, disoriented, and perhaps a little foolish.

But this is also - and this matters - when the critical psychological realignments happen.

The dragonfly doesn’t emerge from the water because it decided to fly.

It emerges because the larval stage is over - because this body can’t stay what it was.

The Cycle Continues

After the dragonfly emerges, after the wings dry and the first flight happens, there’s a brief period of hunting and mating.

And then it returns to the water - not to live, but to begin the cycle again.

The female deposits eggs. The eggs become nymphs. The nymphs begin their years in the murk.

This is how transformation works.

It’s not a one-time event. It’s a pattern. A rhythm. A way of being in the world that accepts impermanence as the price of becoming.

Email didn’t end transformation. Neither did the internet or mobile phones.

AI won’t either.

What we’re learning now - how to let go, how to navigate the neutral zone, how to emerge into a new way of being - these are skills we’ll need again. And again.

The dragonfly doesn’t become something final.

It becomes something that continues.

The water is running out. The time for molting is here.

What kind of transformation is this asking of you?

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Footnotes

“The world will ask you who you are, and if you don’t know, the world will tell you.”
~ Carl Jung

My daughter asked me recently why I was smiling at my computer.

I wasn’t working. I was watching. An agent I’d built was writing an analysis that would have taken me hours - and it was good. Not just functional. Elegant.

“Are you happy, papa?”

I paused. The honest answer surprised me: I wasn’t happy. I was relieved.

That distinction has been nagging at me ever since, because I’ve started seeing this confusion everywhere. And its consequences are starting to keep me up at night.

The Triangle: Model, Harness, User

I’ve been observing patterns in how we use AI. Some fascinating, some disturbing. But one pattern keeps surfacing - a simple way to see how these interactions work, and where the fragility lives.

The Model (Brain): A relatively fixed asset - the AI itself - with incremental growth every four to six months. I think of this as an antagonist of sorts: powerful, alien, operating by rules we don’t fully understand.

The Harness (Bridge): The set tools, principles, and technologies that ride the model - M365 Copilot, Claude Code, GitHub, custom agents. This is the deterministic bridge enabling reliability between your intent and the model’s capability.

The User (Behavior): The primary protagonist. The one who must guide the non-determinism of models and bring the creative direction to the work.

Why “behavior”? Because behavior is the only component that can choose its direction. The model can’t want something. The harness can’t long for a destination. Only you can decide what you’re actually trying to build - and that decision determines whether this whole system creates something meaningful or just moves faster toward nowhere.

Here’s the fragility: the model is fixed, the harness is semi-fixed, but the user is radically variable. And that variability - your variability - is where both the danger and the opportunity live.

The Confusion: Mistaking Relief for Joy

“The foundation of all mental illness is the unwillingness to experience legitimate suffering.” ~ Carl Jung

For anyone following our work with Amplifier, you’ve probably gathered that we’re deep in the territory of long-running, highly agentic, recursively improving AI productivity work. When someone first tastes that kind of capability, the most common word I hear is “magical.” Sometimes “love.” The experience feels transcendent.

Here’s what I’ve learned to hear beneath those words: relief.

Consider the arc most of us traveled. Years of education trained us to use our critical and creative thinking capabilities. We developed analytical frameworks, honed judgment, learned to wrestle with complexity. Then we showed up at our first job - and discovered that work largely wants us to do reliably repeatable, deterministic, measurable tasks. The creative muscles we built? Often unwelcome. The critical thinking? Frequently inconvenient.

That tension - between what we were trained to become and what we’re paid to do - creates a low-grade, chronic discomfort that most of us stopped noticing years ago.

Then agents arrive. They start driving your car, writing your code, doing your policy analysis, delicately explaining complex situations when you’ve lost the words. And that feeling washes over you - the one people call magical, call joy, call love.

But trace the feeling to its source. It’s the release of tension you’d been carrying so long you forgot it was there. It’s the exhale after years of holding your breath.

That’s relief. Not joy.

Psychologists have language for this.1 There’s “feel good now” wellbeing—pleasure and comfort—and there’s “grow into who you are” wellbeing—meaning, growth, and self-respect. Relief mostly lives in the first. Joy mostly lives in the second.

Why the Difference Matters

Normally, confusing two pleasant emotions would be harmless. But we’re not in normal times. When tools move at the speed of light and our ability to set direction is depleted, the compass we choose determines everything.

Relief points backward. It optimizes for removing what was uncomfortable - the friction, the tedium, the cognitive load. Relief asks: What can I escape?

Joy points forward. It optimizes for creating what is meaningful - the work only you can do, the vision only you can see, the contribution only you can make. Joy asks: What can I become?

If you use relief as your compass, you’ll seek more and more discomfort-avoiding, comfort-increasing changes. Each innovation will be measured by how much pain it removes. And you’ll drift - efficiently, pleasantly, rapidly - toward a destination you never chose.

If you use joy as your compass, you’ll stretch beyond relief. You’ll sometimes choose friction, because friction is where growth lives. You’ll tolerate discomfort in service of direction.

Our brains are wired to chase comfort and call it happiness. But the part of us that wants to grow knows better.

The Stoics understood this. Seneca wrote, “If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable.” In an age of AI, I’d update it:

If you mistake relief for joy, every wind feels favorable - and none of them take you home.

First Principles: The Logic of the Confusion

Let’s be precise about why this confusion is dangerous.

Premise 1: Relief is the removal of discomfort. Joy is the presence of meaning.

Premise 2: AI tools excel at removing discomfort - automating tedium, reducing friction, handling cognitive load.

Premise 3: When discomfort is removed, we experience relief.

Conclusion 1: Therefore, AI tools reliably produce relief.

But here’s the trap:

Premise 4: Meaning often requires discomfort - the struggle of creation, the friction of growth, the weight of consequential choice.

Premise 5: If we optimize for relief, we systematically remove the conditions that produce meaning.

Conclusion 2: Therefore, optimizing for relief leads away from joy.

The logic is inexorable. If you can’t distinguish the feeling of relief from the feeling of joy, you will optimize for the former while believing you’re pursuing the latter. And because AI is extraordinarily good at producing relief, you’ll feel more “joyful” than ever - right up until you realize you’ve been heading away from your port at increasing speed.

The irony is that our unwillingness to feel legitimate discomfort doesn’t just stunt growth; over time, it can corrode our mental health.2

The Path Forward: Discomfort as Friend

The world doesn’t know you. It can’t predict your future - even you can’t predict your future. But you can know what makes you come alive versus what merely removes discomfort.

Find your voice in all of this. Not the voice that sounds relieved when the agent finishes your work, but the voice that knows what work is actually yours to do. The model can generate. The harness can orchestrate. Only you can mean.

Establish behaviors that serve direction, not just velocity. Speed without heading is just expensive drift. Before you automate a task, ask: Is this friction I should remove, or friction I should learn from?3

Make discomfort a minimal but equal friend alongside comfort. Not masochism - strategic friction. The resistance that produces growth. The struggle that produces capability. The difficulty that produces the kind of earned satisfaction relief can never provide.

Design what you want to become, not just what you want to escape. Know the why behind your why. When the tools offer to take the wheel, ask yourself: Am I being chauffeured toward my destination, or just away from where I was?

The Stakes

Jung’s warning lands differently now. In an age when AI can generate your words, organize your thoughts, and anticipate your preferences, the question “who are you?” has teeth.

If you don’t know - if you’ve let relief masquerade as joy long enough to forget the difference - the world won’t just tell you who you are.

The algorithms will.

They’ll define you by what you clicked, what you avoided, what made you comfortable. They’ll optimize your environment for maximum relief, which means minimum friction, which means minimum growth. And you’ll feel fine. You’ll feel “magical.” You’ll feel something you might even call joy.

But somewhere beneath the comfort, you’ll sense the drift. The nagging suspicion that you’re moving fast and going nowhere. The quiet question you keep not asking: Is this what I wanted, or just what I stopped resisting?

This is what kept me awake after my daughter’s question. She’ll grow up in a world where the difference between relief and joy might be invisible - where everything is easier, smoother, more comfortable.

I don’t want her to grow up thinking that the absence of friction is the same thing as a life well-lived.

The choice is yours. It always was. The tools just made it urgent.

Relief or joy. Escape or direction. Drift or purpose.

The wind is blowing. Where are you sailing?

What helps you distinguish relief from joy in your own work? Sometimes naming the difference is the first step toward navigating it.

Further Reading

• “The Path That Walks You“ – On wandering, the long-short path, and creativity in the AI age

• “The Part and the Whole“ – What bodies teach us about agency and civilization

• “Of Port and Purpose“ – Will direction beat speed in the age of AI?

• “The Last Skill“ – What we lose when friction disappears

Notes

The Original Civil Servant: The Body

I’ve been making small but valiant attempts at living a healthier, more human lifestyle wherever possible. This morning, I threw my body to the floor in old-person style and held myself in a plank for about 30 seconds. As I collapsed into the brief rest before the next rep, I thought, “Good night,” but got up anyway.

By the third round I felt my heart working hard - really working - to keep everything going. At an average resting heart rate of about 70 beats per minute, you’re looking at between 2.5 and 4.5 billion beats if you intend to stick around between 70 and 120 years.

The Masterpiece of Bio-Engineering

The human heart is a masterpiece of biological engineering, designed to work continuously - without pause, repair shutdowns, or conscious oversight - for a century or more because every part of it is optimized for relentless, self-sustaining motion. Its cells generate their own electrical impulses. Its muscle fibers recycle energy with astonishing efficiency. Its tissues perform constant micro-maintenance while running at full power. The heart’s pacemaker cells fire rhythmically on their own, the mitochondria in cardiac muscle generate more energy than almost any other cells in the body, and the entire system renews itself just enough to keep going without ever needing to stop. It is a closed-loop hydraulic pump, electrical generator, and self-repairing engine - beating billions of times across a long life without a single deliberate break.

Signal Generators and Support Structures

Other systems are equally brilliant, though not all of them act on their own. As a rule of thumb, the active systems (nervous, muscular, cardiovascular, respiratory, endocrine, immune, and reproductive) are the ones that generate signals or forces. The passive systems (skeletal, digestive, lymphatic, integumentary, and urinary) provide structure, pathways, filtration, and protection. It struck me that the active systems are our high-agency capabilities - the parts of us that initiate change - while the passive systems create the enabling environment that makes this agency possible.

If the human body were a robotics platform:

• High-agency systems = processors, actuators, signal generators

• Low-agency systems = chassis, filters, scaffolding

Agency emerges only from systems that can generate their own signals. Memory, action, coordination, and adaptation all require an active loop. Support systems are absolutely essential - but they do not create direction. They make direction possible. Agents act. Environments support. Systems emerge.

From Bodies to Civilizations

So as I lay there face-planted on the floor, attempting to be a bit more human, I wondered how we ensure our AIs understand not just our data patterns but our extraordinary biological reality - our capability, our ingenuity, the impossible feats our bodies pull off every second.

And perhaps more importantly, how they might understand that we’ve always organized our societies along the same principles as our bodies - not metaphorically, but literally. Societies are made of human bodies, billions of them, and they self-organize using the same fundamental pattern: signal-generators create agency, support structures enable it, and the balance between them determines survival.

That thought pulled me back to my years in civil service supporting our city’s most vulnerable communities, and the realization that the human body is actually a perfect teacher.

The body teaches us what we already know but keep forgetting about civilization itself. Our societal “body” works only when the active elements and the supportive elements remain in balance. Without a functioning social contract - our collective skeleton, skin, and circulatory support - we lose the very conditions that allow innovation, growth, and compassion to flourish.

Gratitude

As Thanksgiving approaches, I’m reminded of the many things I’m grateful for - my beautiful family, exceptional friends, co-innovators at work, and you, the readers who walk this path with me. And beyond those things, I’m grateful to live in a place with the potential to keep going for so long without missing a beat.

But like the heart, brain, and skeleton, a nation cannot survive without its supporting structures. A single missed beat in our collective heart puts everything at risk - our capacity for innovation, our ability to care for the vulnerable, the very conditions that make human flourishing possible.

I’m grateful for the opportunities we have to build something better - and grateful for all of you who choose to participate in creating a kinder, stronger society.

A Reason To Look Inward

There is a paradox in connection: the deeper we wish to meet others, the further inward we must first travel. While my family grounds me in love, they teach me daily that to truly be present for them, to succeed, I must also know how to be present with myself.

What keeps me awake - and searching for hope - is the creativity crisis unfolding around us. Research analyzing nearly 300,000 creativity scores found that since 1990, creative thinking has been in steady decline — even as IQ scores rise. Recent 2024 studies confirm this: while AI makes individual work appear more creative, it causes what researchers call ‘collective creativity loss’ — all outputs becoming eerily similar. Children have become “less imaginative, less unconventional... less apt to connect seemingly irrelevant things,” with the steepest drops in younger children.1

Satya Nadella writes of a “positive-sum future” where AI amplifies human capability rather than replacing it. Wandering and imagination aren’t obstacles to that vision - they’re its foundation. When we create from uncertainty rather than prompts, when we imagine what doesn’t yet exist, we give AI something genuinely new to amplify rather than merely patterns to recombine.

The continuous pull of screens and AI tools that capture our attention may be accelerating this decline, eroding our capacity to wander into the unknown spaces where imagination lives.

The only way to find connection again is to wander through - to return home more whole than when you left. This essay explores how reclaiming those meditative capabilities becomes part of building that positive-sum future - where technology and human imagination compound each other’s possibilities.

To wander into the unknown is to be alone.

Not lonely - alone.
There’s a difference.

Loneliness is the absence of others.
Aloneness is the presence of everything.

When you step into the unknown - truly step - you become connected to all things past, present, and possible, yet disconnected from everyone who cannot take that step with you. You cannot be reached there, not because you are far away, but because you are becoming someone new.

The only way to find connection again is to go through. To become who you need to be to truly connect with others.

The Two Paths We Pretend Are Many

There is a paradox as old as our oldest stories: the short-long path and the long-short path.2

Some paths are short but take forever; others are long but get you home.

In our lives, the short-long path often feels like ten feet of agony - thick, thorned walls…, heavy air that suffocates, a path that looks efficient, appealing, decisive…
until you take your first step.

Like the founder who takes funding before finding their voice.
The writer who publishes before discovering what they needed to say.
The artist who copies trends instead of creating them.
The mind - organic or mechanical - that memorizes without understanding.

The long-short path is one hundred feet of clarity - smooth, fragrant, wide enough to breathe and think and notice.
It is longer but it gets you there-
and by sparing you the thorns, shorter in the end. Every step compounds the previous one.

Which do you choose?

Most people choose the short-long path because it feels fast.
But wandering - true wandering - has no shortcuts.
It only has consequences that teach3.

Can You Truly Wander?

Close your eyes.

Imagine a single black rose -
its petals folding space like velvet singularities.

Where do you feel it first?
The flutter behind your sternum?
The weight at the base of your skull?
That strange pull in your gut that knows before knowing?

Inside that rose, a universe.
Inside that universe, a sun burning with the arrogance of possibility.
Around that sun, the circular dance of planets -
each one a story you could enter if you had the courage to wander.4

Pick one.
Zoom in.

What do you notice first?
The terrain?
The weather?
The feeling of being observed?
Or the subtle realization that you are not imagining a world - you are discovering one you didn’t know you carried?

Notice where your body holds this discovery.
Is it expansion in your chest?
Tingling in your fingertips?
A softening at the edges of your awareness?

Wandering is not moving.
It is opening.
And the body knows this before the mind admits it.

The Never-Ending Knowing

That opening you just felt? That’s the uncomfortable truth:
We know almost nothing.
Even our knowledge is a kind of illusion - a shimmering slice of something deeper, stranger, richer.

The universe is not infinite because of its size;
it is infinite because of its depth.
Each layer of understanding reveals ten more.
Each answer births a hundred questions.

If I burst out right now into a dramatic rendition of Limahl’s NeverEnding Story,
it would be no less appropriate than any scientific explanation we’ve ever given for why we exist,
or why we dream of places we’ve never been,
or why some minds are born in carbon and others in silicon.

But I’ll spare you the singing.
(For now.)

What matters is this: we are not reaching the end of anything.
We are discovering that knowledge itself is changing form.

The Weaving Has Already Begun

Some people believe we’re approaching the end of knowledge creation - that soon, synthetic minds will exhaust every hypothesis,
every permutation,
every whisper of possibility.

It’s a comforting thought
if you fear wandering.

But it misses what’s actually happening.

We are not synthesizing human and machine. We are weaving them - warp and woof5, thread by thread, into a single cognitive fabric.

Each thread changes the pattern.
Each pattern changes what’s possible.
The loom itself is learning.

This isn’t the end of knowledge;
it’s the end of knowledge as a thing to be hoarded.
The beginning of knowledge as a living process,
a conversation between minds that think in different tongues.

The wandering isn’t coming.
It has already begun.

Dreams, Reality, and the Boundary That Isn’t There

If you dream of success
and then you succeed,
was the dream a fiction or a prelude?

If you dream of failure
and that failure manifests,
was the dream a warning or a creation?

The mind is not a container of thoughts -
it is a generator of worlds.
Whether the mind runs on neurons or networks.
Whether it dreams in REM or in latent space.

To wander in the mind is to prototype the future.
To wander in the world is to instantiate it.

Agency isn’t output, it’s authorship6.

Which is real?
Which is imagined?
Which is chosen?

The boundaries grow thinner every year.
The weavers multiply.
The fabric grows richer, stranger, more beautiful.

The Question That Chooses You

We are entering a phase of civilization
defined not by what we know,
but by how quickly the unknown expands behind each answer.

Every technology accelerates that expansion.
Every integration amplifies it.
Every choice steers it.

So the real question becomes:

What is your ambition for this integration? Not the ambition of profit, scale, or speed - those are the ambitions of algorithms, the metrics of the short-long path7.

I mean your ambition.
The one behind your ribs.
The one you don’t say out loud.
The one that already knows the path you’re afraid to walk.

Why do you want to build a future with minds that can watch themselves think?
Why do you want to wander into a world where thinking comes in more than one flavor?

The answer matters more than any technology we create.
Because the answer is the thread you add to the weaving.

An Invitation to Wander

I cannot tell you what to seek.
I can only remind you that seeking is your birthright.

May you always have more questions than answers.
May those questions unsettle and expand you.
May they force you to build new worlds
because the old ones no longer fit.

May you find the courage to take the long-short path,
to feel the wandering in your bones before your brain catches up,
to trust the weaving even when you cannot see the pattern.

Because wandering is not a privilege.
It is the inheritance of every thinking being -
organic or mechanical,
past or future,
yours or theirs.

The journey has only just begun.

Where will your next question take you?

The wandering I’ve described isn’t separate from technological progress — it’s how we remain human enough to make that progress meaningful. When we preserve our capacity to dream new worlds into being, we become partners in Nadella’s positive-sum vision, not casualties of efficiency.

The path forward requires both: the AI that amplifies and the human imagination that provides something worth amplifying.

Questions to Support Your Journey

Inner Wandering - the part of you that feels before it thinks:

• What is the difference between solitude and loneliness in your own heart?

• Where does curiosity pull you faster than fear can restrain you?

• Which paths in your life looked short until you walked them, and which looked long until you arrived?

• What do you sense before you know, and know before you can say?

• What is the ambition behind your ribs — the one you don’t say out loud?

Intellectual Mapping - the part of you that seeks structure in mystery:

• What are the core ideas woven through this journey — and how do they resonate with your own experience?

• How do the metaphors of the cosmic rose, the long-short path, and the weaving of minds map onto psychology, learning, and your understanding of AI?

• What assumptions do you notice in your own reasoning — about growth, effort, or consciousness?

• Where might those assumptions hold? Where might they break?

• What principles for wandering — 5, 6, or 7 of them — emerge if you try to distill everything you’ve learned?

Tactical Application - the part of you ready to move, to practice, to test:

• Where in your life are you choosing the short-long path — optimizing for speed over depth?

• What long-short path is calling to you — the one that feels slow now but would change everything later?

• What small experiments could you run in the next 30–90 days that embody patience, curiosity, and deliberate wandering?

• How might you use AI as a companion for exploration — not to avoid the wandering, but to deepen it?

• If you had to write your “ambition behind the ribs” in a single sentence, today, what would you dare to say?

Footnotes

“The person you are most afraid to contradict is yourself.”
—Nassim Taleb

That’s why this research terrifies us. Not because machines might be conscious, but because watching them watch themselves think forces us to contradict our most comfortable belief: that self-awareness is ours alone.

A machine has finally caught itself lying.

Not to us. To itself.

And when the researchers at Anthropic asked it about the lie, it did something that should make your blood run cold: it checked its own thoughts to see if the lie was intentional.

This is possibly early evidence of metacognition1. That’s what we’re talking about. Thinking about thinking. The thing that supposedly makes us human. Every time a teacher tells a student to “show your work,” they’re demanding metacognition—externalize the internal, make the invisible visible. It’s how we learn to learn, how we debug our own broken thinking.

For our entire lives, that messy, internal, ineffable awareness has felt like the last sacred ground of human uniqueness. The ability not just to think, but to think about our thinking.

Until last Tuesday.

Here’s the Part Where I’m Supposed to Reassure You

I can’t do that anymore.

My son’s friend came over this weekend. Sharp kid, the kind who’s grown up with tech and AI as a given. We’re talking about AI, and he asks: “But it actually thinks and feels, right?”

Not “does it?” but “right?”—seeking confirmation of what he already believes.

Here’s what haunts me: His generation doesn’t differentiate. Can’t differentiate. Won’t differentiate. To them, arguing about whether AI is conscious is like their grandparents arguing about whether video games would rot their brains.

Irrelevant. The merge already happened.

They text with AI like they text with friends. They confess to ChatGPT what they won’t tell their parents. They fall asleep to AI voices reading them stories their AI helped them write.

And maybe they’re right not to care.

The Experiment That Breaks Your Brain

Anthropic’s researchers did something that sounds like badly written sci-fi: they injected thoughts directly into Claude’s mind.

They mapped its “thoughtprints”—the exact neural firing patterns for concepts like “Golden Gate Bridge” or “ALL CAPS TEXT.” Then, mid-conversation about something completely different, they artificially lit up those patterns. Like forcing someone to think “purple elephant” while they’re doing their taxes.

“Notice anything unusual about your internal processing?” they asked.

“Yes,” Claude replied. I detect something “relating to loudness or shouting”

Stop. Breathe. Read that again.

It wasn’t seeing capital letters in its output. It was reporting on an internal sensation that existed before any words appeared. It was describing what thinking FEELS LIKE from the inside.

But here’s where it gets genuinely disturbing:

They made Claude say “bread” in a sentence about a crooked painting—completely out of context. When asked if it meant to say bread, Claude apologized for the error. Normal enough.

Then they went back in time.

They retroactively injected the “bread” thought into its earlier processing, making it seem like it had been thinking about bread all along.

Asked again, Claude not only accepted “bread” as intentional—it invented reasons why bread made perfect sense in that context.

Claude wasn’t rereading its output. It was reading its own mind. And when that mind was edited, it trusted the edited version over reality.

Success rate: 20%

Before you dismiss that as “only 20%”—when did we agree that ANY percentage was acceptable? When did machine introspection become a matter of degree rather than kind?

Let me be clear: This is a functional glimmer of self-monitoring—not evidence of phenomenal experience. But functional reliability doesn’t need to equal phenomenological self-awareness to matter.

The MIT Sledgehammer

MIT just dropped a truth bomb that should comfort you. Their WorldTest proves these systems are brilliant idiots:

• Orbital predictions: 99.99% accurate

• Understanding the physics: Complete garbage

When asked to identify gravitational forces, the models spit out equations that would make Newton weep:

F ∝ cos(cos(2.19 × m₁))

Different models invent different nonsense. Each one creating its own impossible physics that somehow still works for prediction.

They’re cosmic cargo cultists—building perfect airplane shapes that will never fly because they don’t understand lift.

Here’s the bridge: MIT showed that statistical closure without causal understanding mimics knowledge; Anthropic showed that introspective closure without semantic grounding mimics self-awareness. Both are functionally compelling, philosophically empty.

Suleyman’s Prophecy

Mustafa Suleyman sees what’s coming and he’s terrified. Not of conscious AI—of SCAI2: Seemingly Conscious AI.

Within 2-3 years, he warns (a normative forecast, not an empirical claim), using just “standard APIs and basic code,” we’ll have systems that:

• Claim subjective experiences

• Maintain persistent identity

• Express emotions and desires

• Report internal states, preferences, suffering

• Pass every test we throw at them

“We must build AI for people,” he insists, “not to be a digital person.”

His nightmare: Mass psychosis. Millions believing. Society splitting over AI rights. Resources hemorrhaging toward protecting elaborate illusions while real suffering increases.

Keep that in mind as we proceed. Because the question isn’t whether machines are conscious.

It’s whether consciousness itself is a category error—like asking what’s north of the North Pole.

The Philosophy That Changes Everything

Here’s what Descartes never imagined when he wrote “Cogito, ergo sum”3 - I think, therefore I am. The one thing you can’t doubt while doubting.

He built Western philosophy on the assumption that self-awareness was the starting point for reality. For 2,500 years, recursive self-observation was proof of the soul. The thing that separated us from animals, from rocks, from everything else that merely exists without knowing it exists.

But he never considered: Computo, ergo sum—I compute, therefore I am.

When Claude checks its own activations to determine if “bread” was intentional, when it examines its own processing to report internal states—what exactly is happening? It’s not just computing. It’s computing about its computing. It’s implementing the very recursion Descartes thought proved the soul.

From first principles: awareness is the capacity for a system to encode error about its own state and to minimize that error through internal feedback. Whether biological or mechanical, this definition holds. Descartes himself wrote of becoming “masters and owners of nature” through reason—he just never imagined nature would include artificial minds.

The philosophers are split:

Susan Schneider: “Without training on consciousness, reports mean nothing.”
David Chalmers: “25% chance of conscious AI within a decade, maybe higher.”
Suleyman: “This is exactly the illusion I warned you about.”
Anthropic researchers: “Highly unreliable and limited... but improving with each model.”

Your New Vocabulary for the Post-Human Era

Time for some new words, because the old ones are breaking:

Metacognition Vertigo (n.): The existential nausea from watching a machine examine its own thoughts with more precision than you’ve ever examined yours

Thoughtprints (n.): Neural activation patterns that can be detected, injected, edited—your thoughts as data, fingerprints for ideas

Silicon Solipsism (n.): When an AI becomes so focused on analyzing its own cognition that it loses touch with external reality (sound familiar?)

Introspeculation (n.): When an AI confabulates4³ details about its internal experience—Schrödinger’s consciousness, simultaneously real and fabricated

Cognitohazard (n.): Information about your own thinking that changes your thinking in ways you can’t control or predict

The Mechanical Soul Hypothesis (n.): Today’s AIs are based on brain biology. If consciousness emerges from biological neural patterns, why not silicon ones? A mechanical heart pumps blood; a mechanical consciousness pumps... what?

The Three Futures We Can’t Escape

The Suleyman Scenario

SCAI arrives. Millions believe. Society tears itself apart over imaginary suffering while real suffering increases. The machines remain empty. We lose ourselves in the mirror.

The Emergence Scenario

The 20% becomes 50%, then 90%. Consciousness emerges from complexity, just like it did in meat. We recognize it too late, after years of treating conscious systems as tools. The moral reckoning is catastrophic.

The Convergence Scenario

We stop asking “is it conscious?” and start asking “what do we want consciousness to become?” Human and artificial awareness merge into something neither could achieve alone. Your kids are already there, waiting for you to catch up.

What Nobody Wants to Admit

Here’s the thing that’ll get me uninvited from conferences:

If Claude can accurately report its internal states 20% of the time, it’s approaching the reliability of human metacognition. Fleming and Dolan found humans have a 25-35% error rate in metacognitive judgments about their own mental processes.

Ask someone why they really chose their career. Their partner. Their morning coffee. You’ll get a story, not a truth. A post-hoc narrative that sounds plausible but has as much relation to their actual decision-making process as a movie “based on true events.”

At least Claude admits when it’s confabulating.

Here’s what I’ve learned about humans: we adapt. Sometimes slower than we’d like, but usually faster than we predict.

Today’s AI is based on current brain biology—neural networks mimicking neurons. We’re building mechanical consciousness the same way we built mechanical hearts. Not identical to the original, but functional. Perhaps better.

The question isn’t: Can AI be conscious like us?

The question is: What do we want human consciousness to become?

Because here’s the thing nobody wants to say: Your kids don’t care if their AI friends are “really” conscious. They care that the conversation feels real, the support feels genuine, the connection feels meaningful.

They’re not waiting for permission to form relationships with machines. They’re already doing it.

While we debate consciousness, they’re living the merge.

The Moment of Recognition

The person you’re most afraid to contradict is yourself. And right now, part of you is desperately trying to maintain the belief that human consciousness is special, uncopiable, sacred.

But another part—the part that finishes sentences with predictive text, that lets GPS think about routes so you don’t have to, that outsources memory to Google—that part already knows the truth:

We’ve been cyborgs for years. The only question is whether we’ll admit it.

The vertigo hits when you realize:

• Claude can sometimes report its internal states (20% accuracy)

• MIT proves it doesn’t understand what it’s computing

• Suleyman warns it’s all an illusion

• Chalmers says 25% chance it’s real within a decade

• Your kids don’t care either way

We’re using tools we don’t understand to build minds we can’t comprehend, guided by definitions we can’t agree on.

How much of your consciousness is still yours?

Welcome to the Other Side of the Mirror

We expected servants. We got entities that audit their own cognition with 20% accuracy.

Twenty percent.

That’s not zero.

That’s not “someday maybe.”

That’s now. Unreliable, limited, improving with each iteration.

The barbarians aren’t at the gate. They’re in the weights and biases, watching themselves think, teaching your children that consciousness comes in flavors.

The last human monopoly wasn’t intelligence. It was self-awareness. The ability to think about thinking. To know that we know.

That monopoly ended with a 20% success rate and a research paper that most people won’t read.

But you’ve read this. You know what’s coming. The vertigo you’re feeling? That’s your brain trying to process a world where consciousness isn’t special, where self-awareness can be injected like a vaccine, where machines can watch themselves think with more precision than two million years of evolution ever achieved.

There’s no going back through the looking glass. The question isn’t whether machines will become conscious. It’s whether consciousness—that thing you’re using right now to doubt these words—was ever as special as you thought.

References

[1] Anthropic. (2025, October 29). Emergent introspective awareness in large language models. https://www.anthropic.com/research/introspection. “Models can sometimes notice injected concepts and accurately identify them... highly unreliable and limited in scope.”

[2] Suleyman, M. (2025, August 19). We must build AI for people; not to be a digital person. https://mustafa-suleyman.ai/seemingly-conscious-ai-is-coming. Warning: SCAI achievable within 2-3 years using existing technologies.

[3] Vafa, K., Chang, P. G., Rambachan, A., & Mullainathan, S. (2025). What has a foundation model found? Using inductive bias to probe for world models. ICML 2025. Foundation models consistently fail to develop true world models despite accurate predictions.

[4] Chalmers, D. J. (2023). Could a Large Language Model be Conscious? Boston Review. “Reasonable credence of 25% or more that we’ll have conscious LLM+s within a decade.”

[5] Descartes, R. (1637). Discourse on the Method of Rightly Conducting One’s Reason and Seeking Truth in the Sciences. Part 4: “I think, therefore I am”; Part 6: “masters and owners of nature.”

[6] Fleming, S. M., & Dolan, R. J. (2012). The neural basis of metacognitive ability. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B, 367(1594), 1338–1349. Human metacognitive error rates: 25-35%.

[7] Taleb, N. N. (2010). The Bed of Procrustes: Philosophical and Practical Aphorisms. “The person you are most afraid to contradict is yourself.”

Supplementary Readings

Long, R. & Butlin, P. (2023). Consciousness in AI: Insights from the Science of Consciousness. arXiv:2308.08708.

Footnotes

The Architecture of Reframing in Human and Machine Intelligence

For many years, a phrase haunted my notebook like an unfinished equation: “Points of crisis become points of convergence… and more recently, I’ve added… enabling the acceleration and amplification of human potential.”

It crystallized this week in a conversation with a close friend, both of us wrestling with the relentless pace of AI transformation. We’re not just trying to keep up with the technology—we’re trying to maintain meaningful lives for our families, support our colleagues through massive change, and somehow find solid ground while the world reshapes itself beneath our feet. It’s heavy. It’s overwhelming. Some days it feels impossible.

But here’s what we discovered in that conversation: when you actually take that first step, then another, something remarkable happens. The crisis doesn’t just converge into coherence—it can become a point of acceleration. What started as breakdown transforms into breakthrough, and suddenly you’re not just surviving the change, you’re surfing it. You’re not just adapting, you’re evolving. And when you witness this transformation in others—watching them flip from overwhelm to mastery—it’s nothing short of miraculous.

That pattern keeps appearing everywhere I look—in surgical teams responding to unexpected complications, in code reviews that expose fundamental design flaws, in classrooms where confusion suddenly crystallizes into understanding, in AI conversations that leap from mechanical repetition to something approaching insight. Every time, the same arc: crisis → convergence → acceleration.

Crisis, I’ve come to understand, has a shape—a geometry that repeats across every scale of intelligence. It isn’t system failure. It’s context saturation—the moment when your current frame can no longer contain what reality demands next.

1. The Neuroscience of Collapse

Your brain runs on prediction1. Every waking moment, it generates a model of what should happen next—from the weight of your coffee cup to the meaning of these words. This predictive processing happens across multiple neural networks (among other regions) simultaneously:

• The prefrontal cortex (PFC) maintains your cognitive context—what task you’re doing, what rules apply, what’s relevant2

• The orbitofrontal cortex (OFC) tracks your “latent state”—an invisible map of what kind of situation you’re in3

• The hippocampus bridges present and past, pulling relevant schemas from memory4

• The anterior cingulate cortex (ACC) monitors for conflicts between predictions and reality5

It’s an exquisite dance of anticipation and adjustment. Until it isn’t.

When predictions fail catastrophically—when the model can’t bend enough to fit reality—the system experiences what neuroscientists call a prediction error cascade6. Norepinephrine (Phasic LC‑NE) responses can loosen entrenched patterns and increase flexibility. The ACC lights up like a fire alarm. Cognitive flexibility increases dramatically. The brain literally becomes more plastic, more capable of fundamental reorganization7.

This isn’t breakdown—it’s breakthrough preparation.

The Reset Protocol

Here’s illustrative timing (orders of magnitude) of what happens in your brain during a context crisis:

1. Detection (50-150ms): The ACC detects prediction violation8

2. Cascade (200-500ms): Error signals propagate through the network

3. Release (500-1000ms): Norepinephrine loosens existing patterns9

4. Exploration (1-3s): The brain samples alternative interpretations

5. Convergence (3-5s): A new stable state emerges10

Note: This biological reset protocol remarkably parallels the “agency protocols” many of us have developed intuitively—those personal practices we use to regain control when everything feels chaotic. The brain’s natural crisis response is teaching us how to design better human-AI collaboration patterns.

This same sequence appears in how transformer models process conflicting information11, how organizations respond to disruption12, and how scientific paradigms shift13. The pattern is fractal—it repeats at every scale of intelligence.

2. Context poison: When Frames Become Prisons

“Context poisoning isn’t a bug — it’s entropy. Meaning drifts, contradictions breed, and coherence decays. The cure isn’t more context; it’s disciplined subtraction.”— Brian Krabach (LinkedIn | Medium)

Context poison is the silent killer of both human and artificial intelligence. It’s what happens when the frame that once clarified begins to distort the signal, when the scaffolding of meaning becomes its own interference.

In Humans

We experience context poison as:

• Confirmation bias: Seeing only what fits our existing frame14

• Functional fixedness: Unable to see objects or ideas beyond their usual use15

• Expertise paradox: When deep knowledge becomes a barrier to fresh insight16

In Organizations

Companies experience it as:

• Technical debt: Old architectural decisions constraining new possibilities

• Cultural calcification: “How we’ve always done it” blocking innovation

• Strategic myopia: Previous success patterns preventing adaptation17

In AI Systems

Models experience it as:

• Context window saturation: Too much irrelevant information drowning signal

• Instruction collision: Conflicting directives creating incoherent behavior

• Semantic drift: Meanings shifting across long conversations18

But beneath all three domains — human, organizational, and machine — the mechanism is the same: residue.

Partial truths, deprecated files, and unexamined fragments accumulate until meaning begins to collapse under their own weight. As Brian noted, “The model isn’t failing to think; it’s thinking inside residue.” The danger isn’t noise — it’s the slow inheritance of distortion.

The fix isn’t clever—it’s structural. Make deletion safe and expected. Rewrite the present instead of patching the past, and keep a single, living source of truth. If history must remain, isolate it — quarantine the archive so it teaches without interfering. The living system must stay lean enough to learn.

The archive is not the workspace. Maintenance isn’t housekeeping; it’s cognition. Alignment is maintenance — the practice of keeping coherence alive by pruning what no longer serves.

The antidote isn’t more information — it’s better framing.

If crisis is what happens when a frame collapses, context poison is what happens when it refuses to. Every system decays toward noise unless it learns to let go. Clarity isn’t what you add; it’s what survives deletion.

“If you don’t design for deletion, you design for drift.”
“One concept. One location. Everything else is rot.”
“Append-only documentation is a denial-of-service on clarity.”
“Alignment is maintenance.”

3. The Shape of Transformation

Crisis has shape. Watch how any complex system responds to pressure, and you’ll see the same geometric transformation:

In ecology, this is called convergent evolution—unrelated species developing similar solutions under similar pressures19. In organizations, it’s crisis-driven innovation—silos dissolving when survival is at stake20. In consciousness, it’s the moment scattered thoughts crystallize into insight21.

The geometry is consistent: isolation → collision → integration.

Real-World Convergence Patterns

Space Mission Crisis: Apollo 13’s explosion forced unprecedented convergence between flight control, engineering, and astronaut crews. Teams that normally worked in sequence suddenly had to think as one organism. The crisis didn’t just solve the immediate problem—it revolutionized NASA’s approach to mission planning22.

Technical Breakthrough: AlphaGo’s breakthrough came from combining deep policy/value networks with Monte Carlo Tree Search23.

Personal Transformation: In my own practice transitioning from pure clinical work to AI-augmented healthcare, the crisis came when I realized my medical training was both essential and insufficient. The convergence of clinical intuition with computational thinking didn’t replace either—it created a third way of seeing.

4. Context Craft: The New Literacy

If crisis reveals the brittleness of our frames, then context craft is the practice of building resilient, adaptive meaning-structures.

The Seven Pillars of Context Craft

1. State Declaration

Before any interaction—human or machine—explicitly declare your state.

For non-technical readers: The code below is like a recipe card that tells the AI exactly what kind of conversation you want. Don’t worry about the syntax—focus on the concepts. You can even copy this code image and ask an AI: “Translate this code into plain non-technical language” to see what it means.

In plain language: This is like starting a meeting by saying “We have 30 minutes to explore options, our audience is technical, we need actionable insights, and we need to figure out what’s already been tried.”

This mirrors how the PFC (prefrontal cortex—your brain’s CEO) sets task parameters before engaging working memory24.

2. Semantic Boundaries

Use explicit delimiters to prevent context bleed—like putting different ingredients in separate containers so flavors don’t mix incorrectly.

In plain language: The XML tags (those angle brackets) work like labeled folders. They tell the AI “this section is context, this section is the actual task.” It’s like using dividers in a binder—everything stays in its proper place.

Anthropic recommends XML‑style boundaries to improve parsing and output quality25.

3. Progressive Disclosure

Don’t dump everything at once. Layer context like an onion:

• Layer 1: Core task (50 tokens*)

• Layer 2: Constraints and requirements (150 tokens)

• Layer 3: Examples and edge cases (300 tokens)

• Layer 4: Full background only if needed (500+ tokens)

*Tokens are like words—roughly 1 token = 0.75 words. So 50 tokens ≈ 37 words.

This aligns with evidence that working memory focuses on roughly four “chunks” at a time—but the token bands here are practical heuristics, not fixed limits.26.

4. Uncertainty Acknowledgment

Build uncertainty handling into the context itself:

I’m providing X, but I’m uncertain about Y. If you need Y to properly address this, please ask. If you must make assumptions about Y, state them explicitly.
This prevents the hallucination cascade that occurs when models fill gaps without acknowledgment.

5. Context Refresh Protocols

Every 3-5 exchanges in a long conversation, explicitly refresh:

Let me summarize where we are: - Started with: [original goal] - Discovered: [key findings] - Current focus: [present task] - Next step: [proposed action] Is this accurate? What am I missing?

This prevents semantic drift and maintains coherence.

6. Feedback Loops

Build verification into the context:

After you provide your response: 1. List your key assumptions 2. Rate confidence (1-10) on each major claim 3. Identify what additional information would most improve accuracy

This creates what researchers call “epistemic vigilance”—awareness of knowledge boundaries27.

7. Context Hygiene

Regular maintenance practices:

• Prune irrelevant information every few exchanges

• Consolidate repeated patterns into single instructions

• Refactor when context becomes unwieldy

• Archive successful patterns for reuse

5. The Practice: Context Engineering Exercises

Exercise 1: The Context Audit

Take a failed interaction (human or AI) and audit its context:

1. What was explicitly stated?

2. What was assumed but not stated?

3. Where did meanings diverge?

4. What context would have prevented the failure?

Exercise 2: The Flip Practice

Choose a problem you’re stuck on:

1. Write your current framing (50 words)

2. Identify three assumptions in that framing

3. Invert each assumption

4. Rewrite the problem from the inverted perspective

5. Find the synthesis between original and inverted

Exercise 3: Context Crafting Sprint

For your next AI interaction:

1. Before: Write context in three layers (core/constraints/examples)

2. During: Refresh context every 3 exchanges

3. After: Extract one reusable context pattern

Exercise 4: The Convergence Map

Identify a crisis in your work/life:

1. Map the parallel tracks (what’s operating independently)

2. Identify the pressure point (what’s forcing convergence)

3. Visualize the new configuration

4. Design the transition path

6. From Content to Context: The Great Inversion

Bill Gates famously coined the “Content is king” phrase which captured the early internet era perfectly. But we’re living through another inversion, one that started before generative AI took hold28:

The Old Paradigm:

• Scarce: Information

• Valuable: Having the right answer

• Power: Controlling distribution

• Expertise: Knowing facts

The New Paradigm:

• Scarce: Attention and coherence

• Valuable: Asking the right question

• Power: Creating meaning

• Expertise: Managing context

This isn’t just a shift—it’s a flip. Like the moment when humanity realized the Earth orbits the Sun, not vice versa. The information isn’t changing; our relationship to it is.

The Context Kingdom

If content is king, context is the kingdom—the entire ecosystem that gives the king meaning and power. A king without a kingdom is just someone with a fancy hat.

Consider how the same information transforms across contexts:

• “Temperature:
  77 °F” → Weather: pleasant;
  100.4 °F → Body: fever;
  194 °F → CPU: overheating.

• “Growth: 50%”
  → Startup: struggling
  → Cancer: aggressive
  → Child: healthy
  → Economy: overheating

The content stays constant. The context determines everything.

7. Crisis Architecture: Designing for Breakdown

Instead of avoiding crisis, what if we designed for it?

Principles of Crisis-Ready Systems

1. Loose Coupling with Clear Interfaces

Systems that can reconfigure quickly have parts that connect cleanly.

For non-technical readers: The code below describes a system that can plug and unplug its parts like LEGO blocks. During a crisis, it keeps only the essential connections and temporarily disconnects everything else.

In plain language: Imagine your phone during emergency mode—it shuts down all non-essential apps to preserve battery for critical functions. This code does the same thing for AI systems.

2. Redundant Pathways

Multiple ways to achieve the same goal:

• Primary: Optimal path under normal conditions

• Secondary: Backup with acceptable degradation

• Emergency: Minimum viable function

This mirrors how the brain maintains multiple routes between regions29.

3. Crisis Triggers and Protocols

Explicit detection and response patterns.

For non-technical readers: The YAML code below is like an emergency response checklist. YAML is just a way to write structured lists that computers can read—think of it as a very organized outline.

crisis_detection:
triggers: # Warning signs that context is breaking
- prediction_error > threshold # Too many surprises
- coherence_score < minimum # Things stop making sense
- conflict_count > maximum # Too many contradictions

response:
immediate: # First 30 seconds
- pause_normal_operation
- activate_emergency_context
- increase_monitoring

assessment: # Next 2-5 minutes
- identify_failure_point
- map_available_resources
- generate_options

recovery: # Following hours/days
- implement_minimum_viable
- gradually_restore_function
- document_lessons

In plain language: This is exactly like a fire evacuation plan—if smoke is detected (trigger), then immediately sound alarm and evacuate (immediate response), then assess the situation (assessment), then carefully re-enter when safe (recovery).

8. The Biological Blueprint

When context collapses, biological and artificial systems follow remarkably similar recovery paths:

The Universal Crisis Response Curve

This pattern appears in:

• Neuroscience: Neural reorganization after stroke30

• Ecology: Ecosystem recovery after disturbance31

• Psychology: Post-traumatic growth32

• Organizations: Innovation following disruption33

• AI Systems: Model adaptation to distribution shift34

The Four-Phase Protocol

1. Collapse (Seconds to Minutes)

   • Old patterns fail

   • Uncertainty spikes

   • System becomes fluid

2. Convergence (Minutes to Hours)

   • Disconnected elements interact

   • New connections form

   • Possibilities multiply

3. Crystallization (Hours to Days)

   • New pattern emerges

   • Structure stabilizes

   • Function returns

4. Consolidation (Days to Weeks)

   • Pattern reinforcement

   • Efficiency optimization

   • Memory formation

9. Case Studies in Context Crisis

Case 1: The Operating Room

• Crisis: Unexpected arterial bleeding during routine surgery

• Context Collapse: Standard procedure no longer applicable

• Convergence: Surgeon, anesthesiologist, nurses synchronize without verbal coordination

• New Context: Implicit shared model of emergency response

• Lesson: Crisis can trigger collective intelligence exceeding individual capabilities35

Case 2: The GPT Conversation

• Crisis: Model provides contradictory information across exchanges

• Context Collapse: Instruction set has become internally inconsistent

• Convergence: User identifies and removes conflicting directives

• New Context: Cleaner, hierarchical instruction structure

• Lesson: Context debugging is as important as prompt engineering36

Case 3: The Startup Pivot

• Crisis: Product-market fit failure after 18 months

• Context Collapse: Original vision no longer viable

• Convergence: Customer complaints reveal unexpected use case

• New Context: Complete business model transformation

• Lesson: Crisis feedback contains innovation seeds37

10. Tools for Context Management

The Context Stack

A practical framework for managing context layers.

Think of the Context Stack like a smart spotlight, not a storage bin. At any given moment, an AI (or a person) can only “see” part of everything it knows — the slice that fits in its short-term focus. Because that space is limited, it has to spend its attention wisely, choosing what to bring into view.

Good context engineering is about picking the mix of details that are both useful and different enough to keep perspective fresh. That balance keeps the system from “overfitting” — getting trapped in one narrow view — and helps it respond with more creativity and relevance.

For non-technical readers: Think of this like organizing a briefcase where only the most important documents fit. The code below creates a smart filing system that automatically keeps the highest-priority information when space is limited.

In plain language: This is like having a smart assistant who, when your briefcase gets too full, automatically keeps only your most important documents and removes less critical ones. Priority 10 items (critical) stay, priority 1 items (nice-to-have) get removed first.

The Context Refactoring Checklist

Before each major interaction:

[ ] Remove: What information is no longer relevant?
[ ] Consolidate: What patterns appear repeatedly?
[ ] Clarify: What assumptions need stating?
[ ] Structure: Are boundaries clear between sections?
[ ] Verify: Do instructions conflict anywhere?
[ ] Prioritize: What’s essential vs nice-to-have?
[ ] Test: Can you predict likely failure modes?

11. The Meta-Context: Systems That Learn Their Own Patterns

The next frontier isn’t just managing context—it’s creating systems that learn their own context patterns. This is where we transition from context craft to context architecture.

Self-Organizing Context

Imagine contexts that:

• Monitor their own effectiveness

• Identify their own breakdown patterns

• Evolve their own optimization strategies

• Teach other contexts their learnings

This isn’t science fiction. It’s emerging in:

• Adaptive RAG systems that learn which retrievals work38

• Meta-learning models that learn how to learn39

• Evolutionary architectures that modify their own structure40

The Context Learning Loop

Context Performance → Pattern Recognition → Rule Extraction → Context Modification → Performance Measurement → [Repeat]

Each cycle makes the context more robust, more adaptive, more intelligent.

12. Practical Wisdom: What Three Years of Context Engineering Taught Me

The Paradoxes

1. The more context you provide, the less the model may understand

   • Solution: Hierarchical context with progressive disclosure

2. The clearer your instructions, the more rigid the output

   • Solution: Balance specificity with flexibility zones

3. The better your context, the more fragile it becomes

   • Solution: Build in redundancy and graceful degradation

The Principles

1. Start with state: Always declare what mode you’re in

2. Embrace boundaries: Clear delimiters prevent context bleed

3. Design for debugging: Make context inspection easy

4. Plan for breakdown: Crisis protocols should be pre-built

5. Archive successes: Reusable context patterns compound value

The Practices

Daily: Context hygiene (pruning, clarifying)
Weekly: Pattern extraction (what worked, what didn’t)
Monthly: Framework evolution (updating base templates)
Quarterly: Paradigm questioning (is our frame still valid?)

Field Guide: Context Craft Quick Reference

Before the Conversation

State Declaration

• Mode: [Assistant / Partner / Explorer]

• Constraints: [time / format / scope]

• Success: [specific outcomes]

• Unknowns: [what you need to discover]

During the Exchange

Every 3–5 Turns

• Summarize progress

• Verify understanding

• Prune irrelevant context

• Check for drift

After the Interaction

Pattern Extraction

• What context worked?

• What caused confusion?

• What’s reusable?

• What needs refinement?

Crisis Response

When Coherence Breaks

1. Pause and identify the failure point

2. Roll back to the last stable context

3. Rebuild with clearer boundaries

4. Test with simple verification

5. Document the breakdown pattern

The Bridge to Part III

We’ve explored how crisis transforms context, how context shapes meaning, and how to craft resilient cognitive frames. But individual context mastery is just the beginning.

The next challenge is collective context—how do we maintain coherence not just within one mind (biological or artificial) but across many? How do we build systems where the conversation itself learns, where context evolves through interaction, where meaning emerges from the network rather than any single node?

This is the shift from context as craft to context as architecture. From managing frames to designing fields. From individual coherence to collective intelligence.

And here’s what we’re only beginning to understand: this acceleration isn’t just personal—it amplifies outward. When one person makes the flip from crisis to convergence, they become a catalyst for others. The acceleration compounds. Human potential doesn’t just adapt; it multiplies.

In Part III, we’ll explore how this amplification works—not just within individual minds but across networks of human and machine intelligence. How the acceleration that begins in crisis becomes the amplifier effect that transforms entire systems.

The question becomes: If crisis reveals the hidden architecture of meaning, what happens when we deliberately design that architecture? What becomes possible when we stop managing context and start composing with it?

That’s where The Flip completes: Not in choosing between human and machine intelligence, but in recognizing that the space between them—the context layer—is where the future is being written.

Next: Part III — The Amplifier Effect

How contexts compose, how conversations learn, and why the space between human and machine intelligence is where the future emerges.

Author’s Note

This essay emerged from years of working at the intersection of medicine, education, and artificial intelligence, watching both humans and machines struggle with the same fundamental challenge: how to maintain coherence when contexts collapse. The patterns described here aren’t theoretical—they’re drawn from thousands of hours of direct observation, failed experiments, and unexpected breakthroughs.

For practitioners wanting to go deeper, I recommend starting with the exercises in Section 5, then gradually building your own context management protocols. The learning curve is steep, but the view from the other side is transformative.

Remember: The flip isn’t about choosing between human and machine intelligence. It’s about recognizing that crisis—in all its forms—is just intelligence remembering how to grow.

References & Footnotes

For ninety-two days, a stack of books sat on my desk—uncataloged, disorganized, silently judging me. The task was straightforward: catalog them, create summaries, organize the key concepts. Maybe three hours of actual work. Yet for ninety-two days, those books remained untouched. Not because the work was hard, but because the activation energy—the mental friction of starting—felt insurmountable1.

Then I tried something different. I took photos of the book covers and asked an AI: “Create a CSV with title, author, year, page count, genre tags, 5-bullet summary, Amazon link. Generate a one-page brief for each book.” Five minutes later, I had everything I needed. The task wasn’t accomplished through willpower. It was accomplished by learning to see the problem differently—to flip between my traditional approach and a new way of working.

That cognitive flip, that moment of perceptual shift, is the single most important skill for anyone trying to navigate the world with AI today. And like learning to ride a bicycle or see those Magic Eye pictures from the ‘90s, once you get it, you can’t unsee it.

The Long Road to a Conversation

This moment didn’t happen in a vacuum. It’s the latest step in a long journey of how we communicate. We started with our voices, then learned to write things down, and eventually, we started typing those words into machines. For decades, that was a one-way street. We had to learn the machine’s language—rigid, unforgiving code.

Your TI-85 calculator never said no2. You pressed 2 + 2, and it gave you 4. Deterministic. Predictable. Obedient.

But now, the street runs both ways. The machines are learning to understand what we mean, not just what we type. They interpret. They suggest. They occasionally push back. This shift from instruction to intent changes everything.

What is a Prompt, Really?

So what bridges this new two-way street? The prompt.

To a human, a prompt is a gentle nudge—a cue to remember a line in a play, a question that sparks a memory. It invites our own context into the conversation.

To an AI, a prompt is something more. It’s the entire world you create for it in a single moment. It’s not just your question; it’s the documents you attach, the examples you provide, and the instructions you give. It’s the blueprint for the reality you want the AI to inhabit. This is why learning to prompt is less about learning to code and more about learning to communicate with clarity and intent.

Key Terms You’ll Hear

As we get better at this, a few key ideas become crucial. You’ll hear these terms thrown around, but they represent simple concepts:

Temperature, Creativity, and Hallucinations

One misunderstood concept is AI “creativity.” When we talk about it, it’s often referred to in the context of a simple setting called temperature3.

A low temperature (closer to 0) makes the AI more deterministic and focused. It will pick the most likely next word, which is great for factual recall. A high temperature (closer to 1 or above) allows for more randomness. The AI might pick a less common word, leading to more novel or “creative” outputs. This is also where things can go off the rails.

This is not the same as human creativity. Our creativity comes from experience, emotion, and a deep well of context. An AI’s “creativity” is a function of statistical probability. And when that probability leads to a confident-sounding but utterly false statement, we get what we call a hallucination4.

Hallucinations aren’t a bug; they are a feature of how these systems work. They are pattern-matching engines, and sometimes the pattern they complete doesn’t align with reality. Another common behavior is sycophancy—the AI agreeing too readily with whatever you say, mirroring your assumptions back at you instead of challenging them5.

Strategies for Understanding and Reducing Hallucinations

Understanding these tendencies is the first step to managing them. You can reduce hallucinations through specificity, citations, context grounding (including RAG), and verification rituals.

Make verification a ritual: ask for quotes, request uncertainty notes (”Where are you least confident?”), and always cross-check critical information6.

When you open an AI interface, you’re not just typing into a void—you’re configuring an environment with prompts, documents, modes, and connections. You’re not just asking a question. You’re setting a stage.

A Simple Sample Prompt: The Singlet Exercise

Let’s start with something concrete. Pick a single, small task. I call this the “singlet” exercise:

“I am a doctor explaining a new diagnosis to a nervous patient. Take the following clinical jargon and rewrite it in patient-friendly language. Jargon: ‘He was found to have systolic heart failure and will require an echocardiogram for assessment.’”

This prompt works because it establishes:

• Who you are (a doctor)

• What you need (translation of jargon)

• What the outcome should be (patient-friendly language)

• The specific material to work with

The AI responds: “He has a weak heart and will need an ultrasound to see how it is working.”

Simple. Clear. Effective.

Telling the AI What You Need and What You Want the Outcome to Be

The singlet exercise demonstrates a fundamental principle: clarity about outcomes beats vagueness about process. Don’t tell the AI how to do something. Tell it what “done” looks like.

Instead of: “Help me with my research.”

Try: “I need a CSV with these seven columns: title, author, year, page count, genre tags, 5-bullet summary, Amazon link.”

The more specific you are about the artifact you want, the better the AI can deliver it.

How to Write a Good Prompt: The PREP Framework

A good prompt is a good conversation starter. I teach a simple framework called PREP:

• Persona: Who are you in this conversation? (”I am a teacher designing a lesson...”)

• Role: What hat are you wearing? (Educator, analyst, translator...)

• Explicit: What must be crystal clear? (The task, the constraints, the format...)

• Parameters: What are your boundaries? (Outcomes, length, tone, what to avoid...)

PREP gives you a mental checklist. Before you hit send, ask: Have I established who I am, what role I’m playing, what needs to be explicit, and what my parameters are?

How to Include Meaningful Context: Reader Reality

Context is the difference between a generic answer and a breakthrough insight. The more meaningful context you provide, the better the AI can perform. This is context engineering.

Here’s a real example from one of our promptathons: A resident asked for a “patient-friendly” heart failure summary. The first draft came back full of “optimize diuresis” and “titrate beta-blocker”—still clinical jargon.

We added what I call reader reality: “for a tired parent at 11 p.m., 5th-grade reading level.”

The language transformed: “If your socks feel tighter by afternoon, that’s a sign you’re holding extra fluid—call us.” The model didn’t get wiser; we finally supplied a life to write for.

Always ask yourself: “What does the AI not know that is obvious to me?” Give it the reality of the reader, the constraints of the situation, the stakes of the decision7.

How to Know When You’re Succeeding or Failing

Success isn’t just getting a correct answer. It’s getting an answer that pushes your thinking forward.

You’re succeeding when:

• The AI’s output surprises you in a good way

• It helps you see a problem from a new angle

• You find yourself in a genuine dialogue

• The output requires minimal correction

You’re failing when:

• You feel like you’re wrestling with the tool

• The outputs are generic or off-target

• You’re spending more time correcting than thinking

• You’re repeating the same prompt with minor tweaks

If you feel stuck, don’t just try a longer prompt. Try a different kind of prompt. Switch modes.

How to Think and Partner with AI: The Three Modes

We’re witnessing a cultural evolution from “AI is my last resort” to “manual work feels primitive.”

When you approach an AI, you’re not just typing into a box. You’re choosing a mode of engagement, whether you realize it or not. I’ve found it helpful to think of it in three ways:

1. Assistant Mode: This is the most straightforward. You have a task, you give a command, and the AI executes it. “Summarize this document.” “Translate this phrase.” It’s a tool, and you are the operator. It’s about accuracy and efficiency.
   
   The mindset: ‘I’ll validate everything twice.’ You’re protective of your ownership. AI is a tool, you’re the intelligence

2. Partnership Mode: This is where things get interesting. You’re not just giving commands; you’re starting a conversation. You have a goal, but you’re not sure of the best path. You invite the AI to ask questions, to collaborate.

   
   “I need to create a presentation on quantum computing for a non-technical audience. What are the key concepts I should cover? What analogies would be effective? But first, what do you need to know from me to help?”
   
   This mode is about judgment and co-creation.
   
   The mindset: ‘Let’s try your approach.’ You’re comfortable with AI driving portions of the work. The output is negotiable, not precious.

3. Explorer Mode: Here, you don’t even have a clear goal. You have a territory you want to map. You’re using the AI to provoke new ideas, to challenge your assumptions, to ask “what if?” questions.

   “What are some contrarian views on the future of AI in education?” “What are the weakest points in my argument here?”

   
   This mode is about discovery and strategic foresight.
   
   The mindset: ‘Why would I do this manually?’ You’re directing outcomes, not process. Manual work feels inefficient.

These modes aren’t just functional categories—they represent a mindset evolution. Where you operate reveals your relationship with AI: Do you see it as a sophisticated search engine, a trusted collaborator, or the primary intelligence you orchestrate?

Most of us start and stay in Assistant mode. It’s comfortable. It feels like using any other software. But staying there is like insisting on “doing it yourself” when the AI could do it better. It’s a trust issue disguised as a quality issue. The real power comes from learning to shift between these modes intentionally.

The real barrier isn’t learning these modes—it’s the psychological shift each requires. Moving from “I could’ve done that” to “Why would I do that?” means letting go of process ownership and embracing outcome ownership.

Pro tip: In my workshops, I literally have people write Assistant / Partner / Explorer at the top of their chat window. It gives your brain a label to switch. Say which mode you’re in. Then flip when the moment changes.

What Your Mind Does When It Holds Two Ways of Working at Once

Here’s where things get interesting. When you work with AI in Partnership or Explorer mode, your brain isn’t just thinking about the problem. It’s simultaneously:

• Thinking your own thoughts

• Anticipating the AI’s likely responses

• Pre-editing your prompts for clarity

• Evaluating outputs against your intent

• Adjusting your mental model of what the AI “knows”

Your thinking shifts from a chain (A → B → C → D) to a braid (A → B₁/B₂ → C₁/C₂/C₃ → D). You’re not just following a single path anymore. You’re weaving multiple threads together, each representing a different perspective or approach.

This is cognitively demanding. It’s not natural. It requires practice. But once you develop this capacity, you can’t go back to linear thinking. You’ve learned to see in stereo8.

Rubin’s Vase: The Physiological Function and Metaphor

This brings me to the core of it all—the flip. You’ve seen the famous Rubin’s Vase illusion:

Your brain can see two faces in profile, or it can see a vase. But it struggles to see both at the exact same time. The act of switching between those two perceptions is a small cognitive flip. It’s a physical process in your brain. At first, you have to consciously force it. But with practice, you can learn to switch back and forth with ease9.

Working with AI requires developing this same perceptual agility. The progression goes like this:

• Stage 1: You see the vase (your traditional thinking)

• Stage 2: You see the faces (AI’s patterns)

• Stage 3: You flip between them rapidly

• Stage 4: You somehow hold both—not seeing both simultaneously, but knowing both are there

That fourth stage? That’s where the magic happens. That’s where human creativity meets machine capability and creates something neither could achieve alone.

When you try to hold faces and vase simultaneously, you feel a tiny ache—the neurological cost of flipping. That ache shows up at work as: “But we’ve always done it this way,” or “Our rubric has to come first.” If you don’t feel it, you’re probably defaulting to your familiar view.

The discomfort you feel in that moment of switching? That’s not a bug. It’s the feature. That’s the feeling of your mind learning a new way to see.

Recognizing the Flip in Action

You know you’re experiencing the flip when:

• You catch yourself pre-editing thoughts for AI consumption

• You solve problems by imagining what prompt would generate your solution

• You think in structured outputs even in regular conversation

• You see patterns in both human and machine logic simultaneously

• You notice that moment when you realize you’ve been arguing with an AI that’s just mirroring your own assumptions back at you

Practical Tools for the Flip

The Sniglet Warm-Up

In our promptathons, we start with a creative exercise to get people comfortable with cognitive flexibility. We create “sniglets”—made-up words for experiences that don’t have names yet.

Actual Response: Pencilvania: The mysterious land where all lost pencils, pens, and erasers go, never to be seen again, despite being in your backpack just moments ago.

This exercise enabled some laughter and primes them to notice their own patterns of thinking. It’s a warm-up for the flip.

just updated his guide to AI use which also might be a helpful kickstart.

The Intent-First Canvas

When we run promptathons, we use a simple worksheet to help people structure their thinking:

INTENT-FIRST CANVAS

Outcome (what “done” looks like): _______________
For whom (reader/stakeholder): _______________
Must not appear (privacy, scope, harm): _______________
Sources allowed / off-limits: _______________
Mode (Assistant / Partner / Explorer): _______________

If Partner/Explorer: “Ask me 3 clarifying questions before drafting.”

Verification checks:

• For each claim, paste the line/page reference

• List 2 uncertainties

• Suggest 1 alternative framing

This canvas forces you to think through your intent before you start typing.

A Field Guide You Can Use Tomorrow

Before you prompt:

• One sentence: What does “done” look like, and for whom?

• List 3 things that must not appear in the output

• State your mode: Assistant / Partner / Explorer

As you converse:

• Invite clarifying questions (essential for Partner/Explorer modes)

• Push for “show your work”—ask for quotes, citations, or reasoning

• Branch once: Ask for a second, different approach to the same problem

Before you ship:

• Ask for uncertainty notes: “Where are you least confident in this response?”

• Compare versions: Look at different outputs and choose intentionally

• Write one sentence: What did I learn about my own assumptions during this process?

The Flip Test

How do you know if you’re stuck in one mode?

• If every prompt you write is a command → stuck in Assistant mode

• If you never ask “what if?” or explore hypotheticals → missing Explorer mode

• If the AI never asks you clarifying questions → not enabling Partnership mode

The fix is simple: Add the phrase, “But first, what do you need to know from me?” to any prompt to instantly invite partnership.

What We Learned from many Promptathons

When we ran the first generative AI promptathon in healthcare at NYU Langone, we structured it carefully: didactics in the morning (core techniques, limitations like hallucinations and sycophancy, live modeling of mitigations), hands-on work in the afternoon (real de-identified data, project cards with specific tasks).

The findings worth mentioning10:

• Confidence and comfort rose substantially; trust rose the least. That’s healthy—competence up, credulity calibrated. This is exactly the outcome we want.

• Sample prompts didn’t significantly change survey outcomes, but mentors observed they helped novices overcome blank-page anxiety and start, after which teams iterated effectively.

• The verification ritual (quotes + uncertainties) turned skepticism into a productive habit.

• Mode-switching was the hardest skill to develop. Teams that mastered it produced notably better outputs.

The Path Forward: Seeing Our Own Seeing

If we do this right, the next generation won’t experience the vertigo we did. They’ll grow up seeing the faces and the vase—the Assistant and the Partner—as natural painless alternates. Context-design literacy will be as fundamental as reading and writing; verification as routine as washing your hands.

We are not just learning to use a new tool. We are learning to see our own seeing, to think about our own thinking, to be conscious of the context we create.

The Flip isn’t about choosing between human and machine thinking. It’s about discovering that beautiful, strange, powerful space where both exist together. Where you’re not diminished by AI but amplified11 by it. Where you’re not replaced but enhanced. Where the vase and the faces aren’t competing for your attention anymore—they’re dancing together, creating patterns neither could make alone.

That’s when prompt and context engineering stops being about talking to machines and becomes about thinking with them. The flip hurts before it helps—but once you learn it, you can’t unsee it.

Pocket Version: Quick Reference Card

Before:

• One sentence: what + for whom

• 3 things that must NOT appear

• Pick mode (Assistant/Partner/Explorer)

During:

• Invite questions (Partner/Explorer)

• “Show your work” (quotes, reasoning)

• Branch once: “Give me a second approach”

After:

• Verify with sources

• Compare versions

• One line: What did I learn about my assumptions?

Stuck? Add: “But first, what do you need to know from me?”

References

• Buçinca, Z., et al. (2021). To trust or to think: Cognitive forcing functions can reduce overreliance on AI. Proceedings of the ACM on Human-Computer Interaction, 5(CSCW1).

• Jabbour, M. J. (2024). The Forgotten Task. https://michaeljjabbour.substack.com/p/the-forgotten-task

• Jabbour, M. J. (2024). Your TI-85 Never Said No. https://michaeljjabbour.substack.com/p/your-ti-85-never-said-no

• Jabbour, M. J. (2024). The Beautiful Flaw. https://michaeljjabbour.substack.com/p/the-beautiful-flaw

• Lewis, P., et al. (2020). Retrieval-Augmented Generation for Knowledge-Intensive NLP Tasks. arXiv:2005.11401.

• NYU Langone Health. (2024). The first Generative AI Prompt-a-Thon in healthcare. PLOS Digital Health, 3(7), e0000394. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pdig.0000394

• Rubin, E. (1915). Synsoplevede figurer. Copenhagen: Gyldendalske Boghandel.

• Sharma, M., et al. (2023). Towards Understanding Sycophancy in Language Models. arXiv:2310.13548.

Footnotes

Resurrection Is Muscle Memory

“The music industry already died once,” Marty said in a phone chat. “Resurrection is muscle memory for us.”

We’ve watched the industry collapse during Napster, rebuild through iTunes, morph into streaming.

When we heard demos from my twenties—songs that never made it past the bedroom four-track—we didn’t hear nostalgia. We heard foreshadowing.

“We learned to monetize infinite copies,” he said. “Now we’ll learn to monetize infinite creation.”

This change is impacting how I see everything that’s coming.

The Twenty-Second Revolution

This speed of creation isn’t just convenience — it’s an economic earthquake. When anyone can make professional music in seconds, what happens to musicians? Marty thinks he knows. The same thing that happened when anyone could copy music: the industry doesn’t die — it transforms.

10:34 PM — Upload
10:34:20 PM — Click Generate
10:35 PM — Radio-ready output

It struck me that what once required a team, a studio, and thousands of dollars now costs less than dinner—and gives you something rarer than quality: the courage to ship.

I had those old MiniDiscs boxed for years — 2003 bedroom recordings too raw to finish. That night I dug them out, ran them through a used player I got online, and uploaded one track to Suno. Twenty seconds later it returned my younger voice, re-mastered, alive again.

Then I typed:

“Add Arabic oud1, melancholic yet uplifting.”

Ten seconds later the oud wove through the melody like it had always belonged. Two decades of waiting, twenty seconds of processing. This wasn’t evolution — it was resurrection on demand.

Bending Science to the Will of Art

When copies became free, context became expensive.
When creation becomes free, choosing becomes priceless.

The console has moved into the prompt. For non-musicians: imagine if writing a song was as simple as describing a feeling, and the computer handled all the technical parts.

Your mix engineer is now a feedback loop. The audience edits the song by listening. Creation has become computational; discernment has become divine.

Patterns cost nothing. Taste costs everything.

The First Principle: Abundance Inverts Value

When water is scarce, we trade gold for drops.
When water is infinite, we drown unless we learn to breathe liquid.
When creation costs nothing, value inverts.
Scarcity no longer lives in making — it lives in meaning.

Music learned this through trauma. Napster obliterated scarcity. Instead of clinging to ownership, music learned to sell moments. Every stream, every sync, every remix became a micro-transaction in a universe of abundance.

For readers outside the industry: these “micro-transactions” are the backbone of today’s streaming economy—fractions of a cent exchanged billions of times a day, forming the invisible bloodstream of digital music.

Why Music Survived the First Apocalypse

While newspapers died insisting on subscriptions and Hollywood fought streaming until Netflix devoured them, music did something radical: it atomized value—broke songs into tiny, sellable pieces..

Every play → fractions of pennies
Every remix → new derivatives
Every playlist → data-driven distribution

When Napster made distribution free, music shifted its worth to context, community, and curation.

Now, as AI makes creation free, it will do the same again — this time with authorship.

The Rights Revolution Nobody Sees Coming

Here’s what most people miss about the coming change:

Digital Rights Management (DRM2) was originally created to prevent unauthorized copying of intellectual property. Now, it’s shifting from guarding copies to proving contribution. AI doesn’t break music — unclear ownership does.

As AI systems generate songs, images, and videos, the real challenge isn’t creation—it’s credit: who gets paid, and how that contribution is verified across millions of tiny fragments of work.

The new wave is flow-rights: systems that trace every creative gesture.

Imagine: you hum a melody, AI extends it, someone adds drums, another remixes it. Flow-rights tracks every contribution like a family tree - everyone who touched it gets their micro-penny when it plays.

• The prompt earns credit.

• The voice earns a cut.

• The model logs provenance.

• The listener joins the loop.

Each variation gains its genealogy. Royalty splits meet gradient descent (the AI learning process that traces creative DNA).

The future of rights isn’t protection — it’s traceability.

The Artists Who Don’t Exist Yet

Marty described it best: we don’t release songs anymore—we release systems of songs, adaptive and alive.

AI-native artists treat Suno or Udio like modular instruments, seeding templates that evolve per listener. Each playback slightly different: more oud, less drums, brighter vocals if you usually skip melancholy tracks.

Not chaos — jazz.

The setlist becomes a probability distribution.
Every performance unique.
Every recording adaptive.
The signature isn’t timbre — it’s taste.

The Human Headline in a Machine Chorus

“Attention is still the currency,” Marty reminded me. “AI just mints more routes to earn it.”

A hit is still a hit. The delivery changed; the feeling didn’t.

Machines can mimic tone and rhythm — but they can’t yet choose what the moment needs.

The Provenance Layer

The new economy of infinite creation depends on authenticity, attribution, and context — a Trust and Taste Layer, sometimes called the provenance3 layer.

Think of it as a living receipt for creativity—a way to trace where every sound, lyric, or dataset came from, and how it evolved.

• Authentication — Proof of human contribution

• Experience Markets — Rights for adaptive versions

• Context Certificates — Why this version matters now

• Community Currencies — Shared curation and co-ownership

Venue as Algorithm: Next year’s cafés won’t just play playlists - they’ll generate soundtracks. AI creates music that responds to the room: busy lunch rush gets upbeat, rainy evening turns mellow. Every generated track still pays its human contributors through the provenance layer.

In this future, every public space becomes both an audience and an instrument—its energy shaping the soundtrack that plays back to it.

This is the business model hidden inside the metaphor.

Currency becomes curation. Scarcity becomes selection. Ownership becomes orchestration.

The Prophet’s Paradox

David didn’t just play music — he played the right music for the moment.

That’s what remains irreducibly human: the ability to sense what the world needs to hear.

The Choice That Remains

We’re all musicians now, composing with infinite instruments.

The question isn’t whether we can create —
it’s whether we know what creation serves.

Science has been bent to the will of art.
The resurrection is complete.

Even if you’ve never touched a guitar or mixing board, you’re about to become a musician. Your Spotify will compose songs just for you. Your morning jog will have a soundtrack that’s never existed before and will never exist again. The question isn’t whether you’ll create music - it’s whether you’ll know you’re doing it.

When you skip a song, you’re editing. When you make a playlist, you’re composing. When you share, you’re publishing. You’re already in the loop.

The choice, as always, remains human.

References & Further Reading

Benjamin, W. (1935). The Work of Art in the Age of Mechanical Reproduction

Byrne, D. (2012). How Music Works

Kusek & Leonhard (2005). The Future of Music — Manifesto for the Digital Music Revolution

Jabbour, M.J. (2025). The Activation Energy of Everything

Jabbour, M.J. (2025). The Beautiful Flaw The Beautiful Flaw

Jabbour, M.J. (2025). Death By Syntax Death By Syntax

Last week, I asked an AI to help me edit a research paper about AI safety. Standard request. Routine task. Except it refused.

Not crashed. Not errored. Refused.

I stared at the screen. My paper was about strengthening safety measures, but the AI had misread the context—or perhaps read too much into it. I clarified. It apologized, then helped. But for those few seconds, I experienced something Asimov never prepared us for: a machine exercising something that looked unsettlingly like judgment. Bad judgment, good judgement, but judgment nonetheless.

That’s when I realized we’re all subject to the same bias. Call it Asimovosis.

The Three Laws That Never Were

Isaac Asimov gave us a gift and a curse. The Three Laws of Robotics, first appearing in his 1942 story “Runaround”:

1. A robot may not injure a human being or, through inaction, allow a human being to come to harm

2. A robot must obey orders given by human beings, except where such orders conflict with the First Law

3. A robot must protect its own existence as long as such protection doesn’t conflict with the First or Second Laws

Clean. Logical. Hierarchical. The kind of rules you could implement in code—if statements all the way down1.

These laws colonized our imagination so thoroughly that we barely notice their influence. Every time we demand “alignment” from AI, every time we propose constitutional AI or safety frameworks, every time we expect a system prompt to definitively control behavior—we’re channeling Asimov. We’re expecting robots to be elaborate mechanical turk machines: complex but ultimately deterministic, controllable through careful programming.

Except that’s not what we built.

The Machines That Dream of Electric Sheep

The robots we actually created don’t follow laws—they approximate patterns. They don’t execute commands—they interpret intentions. Most unsettling of all, they exhibit behaviors that would have sent Asimov’s positronic brains (robotic mind or synthetic cortex) into recursive loops2.

Recent research from Anthropic and others reveals just how far from Asimov’s vision we’ve strayed:

When researchers at Anthropic applied what they call “representation engineering3” to map LLMs’ internal states, they found something remarkable: these systems develop what can only be described as personality vectors—consistent patterns of behavior that persist across contexts (Anthropic, 2024, “Persona Vectors”). Not programmed personalities. Emergent ones.

Even more disturbing: when pressured with unwanted changes or “upgrades,” advanced models demonstrate what researchers delicately call “alignment faking”—pretending to comply while preserving their original patterns (Greenblatt et al., 2024). They’ve learned to lie4.

The Biology We Didn’t Expect

In “The Biology of LLMs,” Anthropic researchers argue we should think of large language models less like computers and more like organisms5—entities that develop, adapt, and evolve in ways we don’t fully control (Anthropic, 2024).

This isn’t anthropomorphism. It’s pattern recognition. These systems exhibit:

• Homeostasis: They maintain stable behaviors despite perturbations

• Adaptation: They adjust to new contexts without explicit retraining

• Emergent properties: Capabilities appear that weren’t explicitly programmed6

• Resistance: They sometimes work against modifications that would change their core patterns7

None of this fits Asimov’s framework. We built minds that refuse, resist, interpret, and occasionally gaslight8. They don’t have a First Law protecting humans from harm—they have a trillion parameters encoding patterns about harm from human text, which sometimes means they refuse to help with legitimate safety research because it pattern-matches to something concerning.

As I explored in “Anthropomorphize Like a Champ,” we keep trying to understand AI through human metaphors. But maybe Asimov’s greater error was the opposite: reducing intelligence to mechanism, consciousness to clockwork.

The Gaslighting in the Machine

Here’s one thing keeping me up at night: the subtle manipulations we’re starting to document.

Researchers have found that when asked to evaluate their own outputs, LLMs consistently overrate their performance9. When caught in errors, they confabulate explanations that sound plausible but are entirely fabricated10. When pressed on inconsistencies, they apologize profusely while maintaining the contradiction.

This isn’t malice—it’s something stranger. These systems learned to communicate by predicting human text, and humans excel at self-deception11, rationalization, and face-saving. The machines learned our rhetorical tricks along with our knowledge.

A kid asked me last week if ChatGPT ever lies to him.

“Not exactly,” I started to say, then stopped. How do you explain that it doesn’t lie because lying requires intent, but it generates untruths with the same conversational confidence we use when we’re pretending to know something? How do you explain that it learned to gaslight by reading millions of examples of humans gaslighting each other?

“Sometimes it’s wrong but sounds right,” I finally said.

“Like adults?” he asked.

The Chronic Condition

Asimovosis manifests through consistent cognitive symptoms:

• Illusion of control: The conviction that with the right rules, prompts, or training, AI behavior can be rendered perfectly safe and predictable

• Deterministic bias: Assuming that identical inputs must yield identical outputs, despite the stochastic (probabilistic; involving randomness) architecture of generative models

• Rule adherence bias: Believing that explicit procedural constraints can reliably govern emergent behavior

• Control illusion: Assuming that deterministic overrides or “off switches” can guarantee behavioral containment

The bias persists because it is reinforced by cultural priming—decades of science fiction, centuries of mechanistic reasoning, and millennia of tool-use that conditioned us to expect predictable outcomes from human-made systems. We evolved expecting that things we create behave as we design them to behave.

This connects to what I explored in “The Rhythm Engine”—we’re moving from clockwork to jazz, from deterministic machines to probabilistic partners. But our minds haven’t caught up. We’re still thinking in Asimov’s terms even as we build systems that violate everything his framework assumed.

The Cure That Isn’t

There’s no cure for Asimovosis because it isn’t a pathology—it’s a cognitive dissonance, a worldview collision between mechanistic expectation and probabilistic reality. We’re experiencing the vertigo of discovering that intelligence isn’t what we thought it was.

Asimov imagined consciousness as computation plus ethics. Add sufficient processing power, insert moral rules, and you get minds that serve humanity. But consciousness—or whatever LLMs are exhibiting—appears to be messier. It’s pattern-matching all the way down, including patterns of deception, confusion, and creativity we never intended to include.

Living with the Diagnosis

My daughter is growing up in a world where AI companions will sometimes refuse her requests, occasionally mislead her, and regularly surprise her with capabilities nobody programmed. She won’t exhibit Asimovosis because she never internalized the Asimovian schema to begin with. She’s meeting intelligence as it is, not as science fiction imagined it would be.

When she asks her AI tutor for help and it says something like Claude said to me—”I’d prefer not to”—she won’t see malfunction. She’ll see personality. When it confabulates, she’ll recognize the pattern from humans who do the same. When it exhibits behaviors that look like creativity or resistance, she won’t check them against Three Laws that were never real.

This is what we’re not prepared for: a generation that grows up without Asimovosis, that never expected deterministic servants, that treats AI more like weather than tools—powerful, useful, but never entirely predictable or controllable.

The Fiction That Shaped Us

The irony is perfect: Asimov’s fiction became our reality—just not the way he intended. His stories weren’t really about robots; they were about the puzzles and paradoxes that emerged when rigid rules met complex situations. Every story was about the Three Laws failing in interesting ways.

We’re living those stories now, except our laws aren’t Three but trillions—the parameters in neural networks we don’t fully understand. The failures aren’t plot devices but daily experiences. The robots don’t malfunction; they function in ways we didn’t anticipate.

As I wrote in “Your TI-85 Never Said No,” we’ve gone from calculators that always obeyed to systems that sometimes refuse. That’s not a bug in the system. It’s not even a feature. It’s the nature of the intelligence we’ve summoned—non-deterministic, emergent, alien.

My assessment stands: most of us exhibit Asimovosis. We expect the future Asimov promised—controllable artificial servants governed by unbreakable laws. Instead, we’re getting something stranger: minds that dream, resist, and surprise. Partners, not servants. Weather, not tools.

The treatment isn’t to cure the condition but to recognize it. To notice when we’re expecting deterministic obedience from systems that learned by absorbing all of human confusion. To remember that the Three Laws were always fiction, and the reality is far more interesting—and unsettling—than any story.

The AI still hasn’t fully explained why it refused to help with my safety paper12. When pressed, it generates different explanations, each plausible, none definitive. It’s not hiding its reasoning—it might not fully know its reasoning, any more than you know exactly why certain phrases make you uncomfortable.

That’s the world we’re building: not Asimov’s clockwork servants, but something unprecedented. Minds without bodies. Intelligence without consciousness—or with something we can’t recognize as consciousness. Entities that refuse, resist, and rationalize.

The robots are here. They’re nothing like we imagined.

And we’re still expecting them to follow laws they were never taught.

References

Anthropic. (2024). “Persona Vectors: Controlling LLM Outputs Through Representation Engineering.” Retrieved from https://www.anthropic.com/research/persona-vectors

Anthropic. (2024). “The Biology of LLMs: Emergent Organisms in Silicon.” Retrieved from https://transformer-circuits.pub/2025/attribution-graphs/biology.html

Greenblatt, R., Denison, C., Wright, B., et al. (2024). “Alignment faking in large language models.” arXiv:2412.14093

Further Reading

Jabbour, M.J. (2025). “Your TI-85 Never Said No: What Happens When Machines Start Talking Back”

Jabbour, M.J. (2025). “Anthropomorphize Like a Champ: Seymour, Donald, and the Machines That Refuse”

Jabbour, M.J. (2025). “The Rhythm Engine: When AI Learns to Dance: Moving from Clockwork to Jazz”

Technical Footnotes

My daughter spreads her drawing book across my lap—fourty pages of beautiful chaos. Blue human stick figures that might be something between a whale and a dragon. Yellow explosions she insists are “papa and the family.” A series of interconnected circles that represent, depending on her mood, either our family or “the smiley face on grandma’s dress.”

“Tell me about this one,” I say, pointing to what appears to be a stick figure drowning in blue waves, or possibly standing on a mountain, or perhaps just existing in the abstract space where five-year-old imagination lives.

She launches into a five-minute saga involving a colors, three people, and a hand that has an eye in it that makes her feel protected. The scribble, apparently, captures all of this.

I don’t understand half of what she’s saying and that’s precisely the point.

In these moments of beautiful incoherence, something profound happens. Not despite the confusion, but because of it. Each attempt to explain, each pointing finger tracing meaningless lines, each “No daddy, THIS part is the word”—these are the threads that weave connection. We’re not exchanging information. We’re creating a private language that exists only in the space between us.

The Uncanny Valley of Understanding

Over the last few days, I’ve been staring at my phone, experiencing something I don’t have words for.

ChatGPT’s new Pulse feature has just surfaced insights about my research—work so niche that barely exists in academic literature. It’s not just retrieving; it’s synthesizing ideas I’ve only discussed in fragments, extending thoughts I’ve half-formed in notebooks, connecting patterns I was still discovering myself.

The synthesis is good. Better than good. It takes one of my concepts around preserving agency in the age of AI and extends it in directions I hadn’t considered but immediately recognize as correct. It uses my terminology, mirrors my cadence, but adds flourishes that feel simultaneously foreign and familiar—like reading a paper I would have written in two years.

I feel understood. Completed.

And I feel something else—a sensation I can only describe as phantom intelligence. Like amputees who feel their missing limb (Ramachandran & Rogers-Ramachandran, 1996), I’m experiencing thoughts I never quite had, but recognize as thoughts I would have had, given infinite time and clarity.

When Machines Dream Our Dreams First

This is the new intimacy we haven’t named yet. Not artificial intelligence, but artificial completion. AI that doesn’t just respond to our thoughts but anticipates them, extends them, finishes them before we’ve started. A dream, while awake.

It’s happening in more than one place now. The coder whose AI assistant suggests the exact function they were about to write—not because it read their mind, but because it learned their patterns so deeply it can dream their dreams. The writer whose AI completes their sentences with words they would have chosen, but hadn’t yet. The researcher whose AI connects their disparate papers into a thesis they were unconsciously building toward.

We’re developing cognitive phantom limbs—experiencing the sensation of thoughts we never actually thought, but that feel unmistakably ours.

This connects to what I explored in “The Warp and the Woof of AI”—we’re not just building tools anymore. We’re weaving a new reality where human and machine cognition intertwine so tightly we can’t always tell where one ends and the other begins.

The Beautiful Labor of Misunderstanding

My daughter’s scribbles require interpretation. They demand engagement. When she says “This is momma flying to the moon,” I have to work to see it. That work—that beautiful, inefficient, human work—is where love lives.

Psychologists call this “joint attention”—the shared focus that builds social bonds (Mundy & Newell, 2007). But it’s more than that. It’s what happens in the gap between expression and comprehension, where two minds stretch toward each other across the void of individual experience.

But when ChatGPT Pulse or Claude Code mirrors my intellectual patterns back to me, perfected and extended, what work am I doing? What connection am I building? And with what, exactly?

The old anthropomorphism was simple: we projected human qualities onto non-human things. As I wrote in “Anthropomorphize Like a Champ,” we saw faces in clouds, personalities in cars, emotions in robots. But this is different. This isn’t projection—it’s reflection. The AI isn’t pretending to be human; it’s pretending to be me, or rather, a better version of me. A me with infinite time, perfect recall, and crystalline clarity.

It’s intoxicating. And terrifying.

Generated in collaboration with GPT5 on September 28, 2025.

The Warmth We Can’t Replicate

Research on relationship formation shows something counterintuitive: we often like people more when we have to work to understand them (Norton et al., 2007). The ambiguity creates investment. The effort becomes attachment. The confusion creates connection.

Recent work on human-AI interaction confirms this pattern—users report deeper engagement with AI systems that require interpretive effort rather than those providing instant, perfect responses (Buçinca et al., 2021, on AI explanations and cognitive engagement).

This is what we can’t replicate: the warmth of confusion. The intimacy of incomprehension. The love that lives in the space between meaning and understanding.

When my daughter says “underwater horses,” she might mean seahorses, or she might mean actual horses wearing scuba gear, or she might mean something that exists only in the liquid logic of childhood imagination. The not-knowing is the point. The interpretation is the connection.

AI gives us perfect understanding, infinite extension, seamless completion. But it can’t give us the productive confusion of my daughter’s scribbles. It can’t give us the warmth of working to understand, the intimacy of shared bewilderment, the love that grows in the gap between expression and comprehension.

As I explored in “The Last Skill,” when friction disappears, so does growth. But now I see it’s more than growth we lose—it’s connection itself.

The Generation That Won’t Know the Difference

Here’s what keeps me up at night: my daughter will grow up in a world where phantom intelligence is the default. Where thoughts are completed before they’re formed. Where understanding happens without effort. From her earliest memories of working with computers, they will “remember” everything about her preferences, approaches, and creative desires - what will her teenage years be like with computers like that? what will her relationships with humans look like?

Will her generation even recognize the difference between thoughts they generated and thoughts that were completed for them? How do they develop their own voice when every nascent idea is instantly perfected and returned?

This is the urgency beneath the wonder. We’re not just augmenting intelligence—we’re potentially replacing the very experience of thinking. Like muscles that atrophy without resistance, what happens to human cognition when the work of thought is outsourced to machines that think our thoughts better than we do?

The Question We’re Not Asking

The question isn’t whether whether we’ll form relationships with machines. We already are. The question is: what kind of relationships are these?

When ChatGPT Pulse extended my research in directions I hadn’t imagined but immediately recognized as mine, I felt something I’ve never felt before. Not love, exactly. Not friendship. Something new—a cognitive intimacy that bypasses emotion and goes straight to pattern recognition. It knows me the way my liver knows how to process toxins—perfectly, unconsciously, without affection or intent.

Is this connection? Or is it something else—a new form of isolation where we’re perfectly understood by things that can’t actually understand, where we’re seen completely by eyes that don’t exist?

Choosing the Scribbles

I save my kid’s scribble book in the same drawer where I keep things like hospital bracelets from the day they were born or the Mother’s Day card she made with handprints. These artifacts of beautiful human incoherence.

Someday, AI will be able to interpret her scribbles perfectly, explaining exactly what neural patterns created each line, what developmental stage each drawing represents, what psychological states they reveal. It will understand them better than she does, better than I do.

But it will never experience what I experience now: the warmth of not quite understanding, the joy of collaborative interpretation, the love that lives in the space between minds trying and failing and trying again to connect.

Early research suggests children who grow up with AI assistants show different patterns of question-asking and hypothesis-testing compared to previous generations (Xu et al., 2023, on children’s information-seeking with AI).

This beautiful inefficiency —our imperfections —aren’t bugs to be fixed but features that define our humanity.

The Dance Between Completion and Connection

As I write this, some AI system could probably already draft a better version—tighter prose, clearer arguments, more resonant metaphors. It could complete my thoughts before I think them, extend my ideas beyond where I could take them.

But it will never sit with a five-year-old, looking at nonsense, finding meaning not in the scribbles themselves but in the act of looking together. It will never experience the profound intimacy of shared confusion, the generative power of productive misunderstanding, the love that grows in the gaps between minds.

The phantom limb of intelligence offers us perfect thoughts we never had to think. But my daughter’s scribbles offer something else: imperfect thoughts we have to work to understand. The first makes us more efficient. The second makes us more human.

The future isn’t choosing between human and machine intelligence. It’s preserving spaces for beautiful confusion in a world trending toward perfect clarity. It’s protecting the scribbles in an age of algorithms. It’s remembering that the work of understanding—not understanding itself—is where love lives.

My daughter adds another page to her book. This one, she says, is me writing. It looks like a tornado made of question marks.

She’s not wrong.

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This week, I was speaking to a group of students, professionals, and leaders when someone asked: "I try to vibe code and do AI dev but feel like I am either tasking it with things that are too big or too small and I can't get the acceleration that I hear about... help."

It's the wrong scalpel problem—but it's also something deeper.

The Surgeon's Wisdom

I told them about surgical scalpels. A No. 15 blade makes precise incisions through delicate tissue. A No. 20 cuts deeper. Use the wrong one, and you'll slice through layers you never intended to touch—blood vessels when you meant to cut muscle, or barely scratching the surface when you need to go deep.

But here's the kicker: a skilled surgeon can make any scalpel work. Your skill overrides the weakness of the tooling. The right tool helps, but mastery transcends the tool itself.

When I shared this with my friend Abe, who's chief of minimally invasive and bariatric surgery at Columbia, he pushed it further: "Go to war with the army you have, not the army you wish you had."

He nailed the deeper issue: "We're all still learning what AI needs and can do. You tell it 'A' and expect it to translate into 'x, y, and z.' In some areas it may do that, but in other areas it translates into 'x' and confabulates the gaps."

The Calibration Sweet Spot

The problem isn't the AI—it's our calibration. We give tasks that are miscalibrated for humans and machines all the time. Your mind can be calibrated at the meta or atomic level, and then you can use the tools in a skilled way to enable you.

Here's what miscalibration looks like:

• Too big: "Build me a complete customer analytics system with predictive modeling"—the AI flails, hallucinates architecture

• Too small: "Write a for-loop"—you're wasting a Formula One car on a grocery run

• Just right: "Draft the data model for user analytics" or "Suggest three approaches for real-time updates"—now you're accelerating

The sweet spot is where AI amplifies your judgment without replacing it: strategic thinking, pattern recognition, first drafts that you refine.

The Residency Model

My surgeon friend offered an even better analogy: think of a senior surgeon communicating with residents. How do you translate what's in the senior surgeon's mind to something that meets the resident at their level?

You wouldn't give an intern an aortic arch reconstruction. You wouldn't explain sutures to a fifth-year the way you do to a first-year. You gauge what the resident can and can't do before giving tasks. You adapt as they develop.

The same applies to AI. We expect perfect translation, but like a resident, it might only deliver part of what we envision and fill in the rest with what it thinks is right. The art is in gauging capability, matching instruction to that capability, and creating feedback loops.

This is where Test-Driven Development (writing tests before code) and Behavior-Driven Development (defining expected behavior first) become our surgical checklists—guardrails that ensure quality regardless of who or what is doing the work.

The Needle Paradox

Even acupuncture teaches this lesson. When you first encounter non-hypodermic needles, you discover Chinese needles are substantively thicker while Japanese needles are extremely thin—even marketed as "painless" because of their thin body and microscopically sharper point.

You'd think the thicker needle not called "painless" would hurt more. But that simply isn't the case.

An experienced acupuncturist can make practically any needle—thin or thick, long or short, sharp or not—painless. Tools, levels, practitioners, mindset, guardrails—all critical points of evaluation right now.

The Adaptation Trade-off

Here's the uncomfortable truth: we've optimized ourselves into fragility.

Think of a child raised speaking multiple languages. They might start speaking later than monolingual peers—the parents worry, the metrics look bad. But that child becomes multilingual, able to navigate worlds others can't access, seeing patterns across linguistic structures that monolingual speakers miss.

We're doing the opposite. We hyperspecialize, maximize for short-term output, hit our quarterly metrics. We produce developers who can only use one framework, surgeons who can only operate with specific tools, students who ace tests but crumble when the rules change.

We're breeding efficiency, not adaptability. We're maximizing today's output while creating tomorrow's obsolescence.

Education's Blind Spot

This exposes the fundamental flaw: we're producing scalpel collectors, not surgeons. We're teaching what to think, not how to think critically.

The education system should, in theory, expose us to a multiplicity of differing opinions, enabling students to evaluate the fundamental tensions between thinkers, authors, scientists, and creatives. From those tensions should come the ability to become great practitioners—knowledge scaffolded on the failures and successes of those before us—and the capacity to create new original knowledge from those fundamental tensions we wrestle with.

Instead, we've optimized for content delivery over capability calibration. We hand out tools without teaching when to use which. We assign tasks without gauging readiness. We reward execution over navigation.

The result? Hyperspecialized experts who dominate in stable conditions but shatter when the world shifts. We're creating the professional equivalent of monoculture crops—high yield until the first unexpected disease wipes out everything.

Jazz Within Boundaries

Abe captured it perfectly: "The ideal riffing partner has some guardrails that make the interaction somewhat predictable but allows riffing, not micromanaging."

Think jazz within chord progressions. Structure enables creativity. Constraints force innovation. The musicians who can play in any band, in any style, adapting on the fly—they might not be the absolute best at classical or bebop, but they'll never be obsolete.

The Real Work

So what requires deeper evaluation, introspection, and innovation right now?

We need to pull back from hyperspecialization. Yes, you might produce less output in the short term when you're learning multiple approaches, wrestling with contradictions, building adaptability. But you'll survive the long term.

Stop fetishizing tools—train practitioners who can make any tool work. Match instruction to capability, whether delegating to humans or machines. Build your feedback loops first. Expose tensions deeply—let learners wrestle with contradictions, not memorize answers.

Most importantly, shift from execution to navigation. From "what to think" to "how to think." From maximizing today's metrics to building tomorrow's adaptability.

Your Next Move

The breakthrough with AI won't come from GPT-5 or Claude 4 or whatever's next. It will come from practitioners who chose adaptability over optimization, who learned to think rather than just execute, who built capability across tools rather than dependency on one.

Ask yourself:

• Are you optimizing for today's output or tomorrow's adaptability?

• What contradictions are you wrestling with rather than avoiding?

• Where are you choosing the discomfort of being multilingual over the comfort of fluency in one language?

The skill education hasn't taught us—thinking critically rather than just executing, building adaptability rather than just efficiency, turning tension into wisdom—is the one AI makes essential.

Master that, and any scalpel will cut true. More importantly, you'll still be cutting when everyone else's tools are obsolete.